“No feeling is final.” ~Rainer Maria Rilke
Most of the time, when we feel something overwhelming, it’s not just the feeling that weighs on us; it’s also the fear that it may persist.
That the deep sense of loss or longing will burrow a permanent hole in our hearts and we’ll never feel loved again. Or the disappointment will harden into an aching regret and we’ll never feel proud and excited again. Or the sadness will etch itself into our being and we’ll never feel happy again.
But everything eventually transforms. Happiness gives way to sadness gives way to happiness again. It’s a constant cycle we can’t ever pause. Even if we decide to avoid change at all costs, change will eventually find us.
Today, if you feel something you wish would go away, know that you won’t need to carry the weight of it forever. You just need to find the strength and patience to get through the difficult days as the feelings transform.
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About Lori Deschene
Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha. She started the site after struggling with depression, bulimia, c-PTSD, and toxic shame so she could recycle her former pain into something useful and inspire others to do the same. You can find her books, including Tiny Buddha’s Gratitude Journal and Tiny Buddha’s Worry Journal, here and learn more about her eCourse, Recreate Your Life Story, if you’re ready to transform your life and become the person you want to be.
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Thanks for this great reminder. I feel that reflecting on impermanence has helped me though many hard times. Sometimes when I’m in a bad situation, I make it even worse by thinking that it will ALWAYS be that way. It makes it so much worse! It also helps me to cherish the good moments, because I remember that even that will change, so I should enjoy it while it lasts!
This is so true and beautifully put. The thing that’s a lot harder is accepting the impermance of GOOD feelings. Can you offer some guidance on this?
Patience! What a concept in this technological maelstrom. Thanks for the reminder of this virtue. Looking to the teachings of nature my heart is consistently reminded “this too shall pass.” Empty heart holes will be recycled just as leaves fall to the earth, ocean tides ebb and flow, birds migrate and blossoms unfold…
Rainer Maria Rilke is a hammer with a soft blanket wrapped around.
“The only permanence in this world is this: impermanence.” ~{sarah nean bruce}
« everything in life is impermanent. knowing that situations & things always change, is the only thing we can know that won’t change ~sb »
{ps~i posted this quote to my blog last month on my birthday – http://wp.me/pSiBm-v6}
…oceans of emotions in continual flow, evaporating and ever condensing….