“It’s not the load that breaks you down; it’s the way you carry it.” -Lena Horne
We often think that admitting struggle is a sign of weakness, but we all struggle sometimes. We all get overwhelmed sometimes. We all need help sometimes. Acknowledging this is not a sign of weakness, but struggling alone is a choice to grow weak.
We all need each other. No one is an island. The good news is that people really do care. Think about it. If someone you know was hurting, would you offer your support? If someone you know got into a tough situation, would you help them find a solution? You’d probably want them to come to you–to know that you care and they can trust and depend on you.
Why not give them the opportunity to do the same for you? Why push yourself to your breaking point when there are people who’d be honored to help lighten your load?
If you’re carrying more than you can handle today, choose to let some of it go by letting someone else in. You may feel vulnerable asking for help, but wouldn’t the world be a better place if we all learned to depend on each other?
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About Lori Deschene
Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha. She started the site after struggling with depression, bulimia, c-PTSD, and toxic shame so she could recycle her former pain into something useful and inspire others to do the same. You can find her books, including Tiny Buddha’s Gratitude Journal and Tiny Buddha’s Worry Journal, here and learn more about her eCourse, Recreate Your Life Story, if you’re ready to transform your life and become the person you want to be.
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Though I run this site, it is not mine. It's ours. It's not about me. It's about us. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. 
Love this Lori! Such a good reminder to receive as well as give. I just sent out RT.
This is what I need….I always withdraw when I’m struggling…..
Hi Karen,
I have done that many times before because that vulnerable feeling is somewhat uncomfortable. But I know I am always able to rebound more quickly when I let other people help me. I’m glad this was helpful to you. =)
Lori
We have been in a bad financial state recently which was very stressful it was only when we talked about it with friends and family that that burden was eased, i am so gratefull for the people who care about me
Thanks Amanda! I always refer people to your book when they say they haven’t been getting what they need. (The Power of Receiving, for anyone who may be reading).
That’s so nice to hear. I’m glad that you have good people to help you get through this difficult time. =)
Hi Lori
I just saw this! Thank you! xo
[…] is crucial for the person going through the difficult time to be able to ask for help from […]
We often think that admitting struggle is a sign of weakness, but we all
struggle sometimes. We all get overwhelmed sometimes. We all need help
sometimes. Acknowledging this is not a sign of weakness, but struggling
alone is a choice to grow weak.
Dear people, HELP ME and my family!!! I am single mother of
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all!!!!Best regards- Christine