Tiny Wisdom: Let Yourself Be As You Are

Thank you SO much for this. The past few days have been very difficult for me- *something* is up (low energy, feeling off and unfocused) and I have been trying to puzzle through it and power through, but just making myself even more exhausted. I’m just going to go with it, and give myself a break. Thank you, thank you.

Often a surge or growth is preceded by a period of slowness, or almost regressing. Something fabulous may be on the other side. On the other hand, it could be just a little cold coming on and a good nap may help your body fight it off. 

True. I love this!! Very helpful.

Read this in time with what I’ve been going through – or at least what I’ve been doing to improve myself. This has indeed been something I’ve taken into consideration. I just let myself be. Just because we all have troubles going on in our lives doesn’t mean we have to be such unhappy individuals. It’s a human reaction to try to fight the feelings of pain, etc. inside us, but sometimes when we let go and try to live day by day as peaceful as we can and look beyond the imperfections in ourselves, we do find ourselves feeling so much better.

Such excellent advice! I’ve come to realize that my body is smarter than me most of the time, when it comes to body issues. Sure, my brain/mind/intelligence knows what healthy things I need to do to keep the old thing running, but I’ve also learned that I really have to pay attention to the signals my body gives me. It seems to know something’s off, gives me advance warnings. When I’m feeling lazy or slow like you describe, I’ve learned it can be a precursor to getting a cold or whatever. So now when I get that signal, I have a lazy, slow day. Like, give myself a personal down-time day. Stretch out and read, do some slow yoga, have an epsom/aromatherapy bath, do some deep breathing, sit in the shade and meditate, whatever. Basically, my body tells me when it needs an R&R day. If I take it, I don’t get sick. If I don’t, maybe I will.

Luckily, I have the luxury of being able to respond in these ways, being retired and thus having no external obligations. But before I retired, I sometimes took a “sick day” to do this. LOL, my interpretation of the employment “sick day” is “a day to make sure I don’t get sick.”

Lori, How did you become so wise at such a young age? This is a particularly insightful post. Very helpful, indeed. When I think of the times I’ve sat through the final hours of a friend or loved one, none of the tedium of their his is present. It’s only the people, the love, the remembered moments of happiness together. Nobody recalls the day he checked off all ten items on his list. But it’s easy to forget as you drop back into your habits of distraction. Busy, busy, busy. So much to do, that doesn’t really matter. Thanks for this.

” our happiness has less to do with how quickly we progress and more to do with how kind we are to ourselves at each step of the way”

I have been so slow to accept this unconditionally this year, but I’m getting there. Thanks for the reminder!

I just noticed how funny it is that we can slow our personal development by trying to move too quickly. 😉

I’m losing the love of my life and I’m waiting on lab results for possible health issue I have 2 kids and starting back at school my heart is breaking and it’s taking all of me to get through this hour so thankyou for allowing me to cut some slack. Just because my boyfriend left doesn’t mean I love him any less just means right now I need to cut me some slack

First of all I love that quote by Buddha, and second of all I hear you girl! I have two days a month without fail that I just can’t do my to-do list and start to make myself feel guilty. It’s only recently that I’ve started allowing myself to relax on those days and take care of myself. It feels so much better than punishing myself throughout the day.

This makes so much sense. Before now, i used to beat myself up so much and fight myself when it came to losing my weight that i put on through depression (and therefore lost focus) through comfort eating.  I look back now and realised that, although i was doing the right thing with training to lose the weight and tone again, i really did push myself too much, hence why i relapsed.

It makes sense that now i can lose 2 stone in 9 weeks without exercising 4 times a week. In fact, taking it easy on myself, and after learning why i was behaving that way, i’m doing much better ‘now’ and feel a lot happier now too. It’s been several years since i’ve been over the depression (reactive), but i realised after having a minor mental breakdown earlier this year that i just need to chill out. The reason i worry is because i have several illnesses and thought little of myself at the beginning of each diagnosis, and that i cannot be as independent as i want to be financially. Then i think to myself, “It’s not your fault, so if people cannot accept you and your illnesses, then that’s their problem, not yours.”

I now feel good about myself, what i look like, how i dress comfortably and i value myself even more now that i’m older (39 soon). Life is what you make it after all, and so what i do now is take it easy, because i cannot work, and look after myself and enjoy my life as much as  can afford. It’s the best feeling ever Also, GOD IS GOOD!