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ZenithParticipantHe want to meet people and I want to stay away from people for a little while.
ZenithParticipantI dont know if my husband under reacts.Atleast he is living peacfully.Another incident happened today. Yesterday my husband invited my neighbors family to go outside to eat food.They rejected it saying that they had thier lunch already.This happened yesterday.We didnt go too postponed it to today.We went today.He thiught of calling inviting them too but then i said they wont come.When i was eating my food I saw my friend and her family coming to the same restaurant along with her group of friends.That just made me so angry in that moment.She should have made the effort to come along with us instead of going them. My husband started supporting her that the friends must have made the plan and thats ok.I said thats not okay she is not putting the effort in our friendship.I just want to get rid off her. My husband is works remote so doesnt have this social interaction.He still wants to meet them.My little one craves to play with friends daughter. I am just torn apart.
ZenithParticipantFor the past 6 years . My anxiety was effecting only ME. Now this anger is effecting my relationships. I never felt this much anger before in my life.
ZenithParticipantMy husbands childhood was so normal because he doesnt overact to situations/people like me.
ZenithParticipantI wish had a NORMAL childhood so that I dont have to go through this.
ZenithParticipantIt looks like all my existing beliefs are triggering my anxiety.
ZenithParticipantIts people find new friends and leave me.Also my my neighbor like big group of friends.I always prefer small group like 3 people including me to avoid all the drama and conflict.
ZenithParticipantYesterday I recollected how I felt in the past. It reminds me of my college days.When i stayed in dorms I had a roomate who started ignoring me when she met her new friend.I didnt like the new friend of her at all.So I felt bad but was never angry with her. I thought may be I am introverted and I talk less thats the reason why people leave me.I would still talk to her we are still in touch.But now thats not the case I talk more and as a family we are more outgoing.Now I feel like nothing is wrong with me.Its just people evolve and grow then leave me.
ZenithParticipantI feel like I am good enough.I feel like my friend is not good enough.She is the one who caused the distance by mingling with other group of people.They would only invite her every week.So she started getting closer to them.Even we invited but they would say no because they were so busy with this group.
ZenithParticipantI felt better when I read the article.But the author tells that both of them grew apart.In my case its my friend who caused the distance.Its not me.I feel like i was still the same and I didnt hang out with others.She is the one who hung out with others and caused the distance.So I am still mad at her.
ZenithParticipantOk. Have a good weekend.
ZenithParticipantIts approved now. Are you able to see my post ?
ZenithParticipantHey Anita.. I am back again. How are you doing ? Had your lunch? I am still anxious thinking about my friend. I saw this article on tiny buddha that resonates with me so well. https://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-releasing-expectations-takes-the-pressure-off-relationships/?fromterm=5036
ZenithParticipantHI Anita. I just added a link from this website and it says This post is awaiting moderation.
ZenithParticipantWhat if you do this exercise (maybe it will help): in one long paragraph let your OCD/ “my brain“, spill out all it has to say, just type it away, don’t censor it. let it tell you all that it thinks and feels about life and people.–I would still say OCD because I have been suffering for so log like 6 years.
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