I feel like its affecting our relationship. We have lot of disagreements when it comes to parenting. We both are losing our peace of mind because of her tantrums. Sometimes he takes out that anger at me and I take it out on him. It sucks.

I exactly felt the same. I felt like i was throwing a tantrum like my kid. I felt like a kid stuck in adults body unable to control my emotions(ANGER).My little one does it all the time just throw a tantrum or have a breakdown when we say no.I just get angry when my husband does it other way. I have to put the technique in practice.

Lets say I was angry with my friend. When I calmed down a bit i thought about it. I told myself that i cannot control who my friend interacts with then i told myself i have to trust her and let it be.But the thought of losing my friend or losing control over her made me cry.

Awe. You are a very  good friend of mine. Even i felt bad when i deleted my account abruptly yesterday. I registered again today thinking about you then once I registered I saw your post for me on the other thread. Yeah I do experience intense amount of anger and frustration like no one understands or prioritizes me . Sometimes it reminds me of my father, I feel like I am behaving just like my father. He is a very short tempered person. Then I regret and cry about it.

I have been reading the other thread started by you since yesterday. I am so sorry that you had go all through the trauma. I couldnt control my tears. I am prayed to God to give you lot of strength to heal your emotional wounds. No child should ever go through that.