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  • May 30, 2024 at 10:05 am in reply to: Passing clouds #433308
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    Thanks for the input Anita. I will try my best to follow this strategy.

    May 30, 2024 at 9:34 am in reply to: Passing clouds #433304
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    Thats so true. The hatred towards others is effecting me the most.

    May 28, 2024 at 2:04 pm in reply to: Passing clouds #433227
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    My in laws are not that rich.In india the husband and in laws are considered more than a wifes family. Hence the mother in laws feel that they have control over their daughter in laws. I dont even have the choice to wear what i want. I should not wear shorts in front of my on laws. I have to dress certain way. Some indians are still regressive when it comes to a woman when compared to usa. I am ok with clothing but i hate the fact that i have to supress my personality in front of them.

    May 28, 2024 at 11:42 am in reply to: Passing clouds #433220
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    Sorry for the rant.

    May 28, 2024 at 11:42 am in reply to: Passing clouds #433219
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    Sometimes it feels  like i have to reparent myself first when i am parenting my kid.I tell my kiddo others opinion doesnt matter and how people react is beyond your control.But its hard for me to follow.I have become so higly sensitive.

    May 28, 2024 at 11:40 am in reply to: Passing clouds #433218
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    I dont suppress myself at home. Luckily I am pretty transparent with my parents and husband. I feel safe around them.Its just when i am with my in laws and co workers or with new people.I know it takes lot of practice to come out of that shell. Yeah its tiring sometimes.

    May 28, 2024 at 10:45 am in reply to: Passing clouds #433212
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    Lol.. May be i should zone out when they something stupid.Yeah i will probably stay home during the procession.It feels like for the past few years since i started talking to more people. I am always worried about other peoples emotions/opinions as  if i am making them sad by saying no blah blah. May i have been like this for long i guess. Now i am trying to know more about myself thats when i realised i am a people pleaser.I dont talk to people when i am at work. I am always worried i would say something stupid so introverted. Its just same with my in laws. I supress myslef.

    May 28, 2024 at 9:48 am in reply to: Passing clouds #433210
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    Hey Anita. I am flying on friday. I still have time.Its just i was busy packing stuff during the long weekend.So i couldnt reply. Its just I am worried about peoples(in laws and relatives) judgement. I dont have the confidence to stand up for myself and be assertive. Lately i feel like i am living my life for others.I am a people pleaser.Due to this anxiety it would be hard for me to face peoples judgementin India. I fear i would get yriggered and get into that rabbit hole.The other big thing is my fear with procession of hindu gods. That would take when i am vacationing in India. I am worried that would trigger me.

    May 23, 2024 at 12:45 pm in reply to: Passing clouds #433043
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    Hi Anita.. I am good. How are you? I have been thinking about you but then I forget to message you. I have never been so happy in  a long time. We are going India next week for vacation. I was kind of nervous at first but I am so happy that I am gonna meet my parents after 5 long years especially my MOM.I also told my husband that i would be staying with my parents for most of the time so less drama. There is  just one more week left so anxiety is acting up but I am still doing good.

    April 12, 2024 at 9:38 am in reply to: Passing clouds #431641
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    I feel like its affecting our relationship. We have lot of disagreements when it comes to parenting. We both are losing our peace of mind because of her tantrums. Sometimes he takes out that anger at me and I take it out on him. It sucks.

    April 12, 2024 at 9:23 am in reply to: Passing clouds #431640
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    I didnt read the whole paragraph yet Anita. I am not in the right state of mind. My little is one literally testing our patience. She cant take a no and literally cries for every small thing then says mean things like you are bad, mean and I dont like you. It really really triggers me. I told her multiple times its ok to be sad but dont use such mean words.

    April 10, 2024 at 12:50 pm in reply to: Passing clouds #431550
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    I exactly felt the same. I felt like i was throwing a tantrum like my kid. I felt like a kid stuck in adults body unable to control my emotions(ANGER).My little one does it all the time just throw a tantrum or have a breakdown when we say no.I just get angry when my husband does it other way. I have to put the technique in practice.

    April 9, 2024 at 4:27 pm in reply to: Passing clouds #431493
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    Another case was diasgreements between my husband and I. I wanted to do something in a different way than he thought but still he did it in his own way that just made me angry.I get angry when things dont go my way.

    April 9, 2024 at 4:25 pm in reply to: Passing clouds #431492
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    Lets say I was angry with my friend. When I calmed down a bit i thought about it. I told myself that i cannot control who my friend interacts with then i told myself i have to trust her and let it be.But the thought of losing my friend or losing control over her made me cry.

    April 9, 2024 at 4:22 pm in reply to: Passing clouds #431491
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    Thanks for telling me the technique.Do I still do the same thing when I am angry with someone. Like talk to them later instead of that moment ?

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