Anita, the frustrating thing is, have tried being empathetic, etc. and it didn’t seem to do any good. I really cared about those women. When I pretty much got told that I wasn’t good enough, I admit that I kind of stopped caring. In fact, I find it ironically amusing that the first woman who thought she found somebody better and thought that she was better than where she was working, now seems to be relationshipless and looking at being canned from her new position due to economic pressures. Her old position doesn’t exist anymore because they aren’t refilling the position when she left. No longer my concern if she finds herself unemployed and alone.

Will type more later.

Anita, I said that I view children as having value for their potential. I didn’t say they were worthless, just that I don’t believe that humans have additional value compared to other things simply because they have a particular set of genes. Does a triploid or tetraploid offspring (read that not human in terms of chromosome count) have the same enhanced value as the diploid or “normal” human offspring?

RE the dog comment, our narcotics canine for example has more value to society than some people I have met. The narcotics canine serves a useful purpose, the strung out druggy with over a dozen felony convictions who turned somebody into Swiss cheese using a high-powered rifle does not. The same can be said for the various versions of gang-banging thugs.

Kind of hurts that you think somebody who you have minimal information on would be a better option than me, sort of like saying that playing the dating version of Russian roulette is better. Same for your comment regarding equating me with criminal defendants.

So, at the age of 39, what would I gain from recovering this “loving nature” that I have purportedly lost? I’m lonely, bitter, tired, and jaded, but pretty good at what I do. Not sure what a “loving nature” would do for me.

Anita, sorry, just really depressed when I wrote the previous post.

Children do have value in terms of potential. As they grow older, you can determine if they are valuable to society or not. By about age 6, you can determine if children are going to be psychopathic problems or not, per the developer of the pcl-r. This individual suggested removing such persons from society at that point.

Anita, the question is irrelevant at this time.

The guy she is dating is one of those “too stressed” to take on new work, has trouble meeting 40 hours/week folks from the office. Really starting to feel like I’m getting dumped on so that everybody else can have a social life.

Anita, regarding the value of people, it would depend on the nature of the offense and the nature of the specialization. There are a lot of ways to “murder” someone, including medical personnel giving overdoses of opiate type pain killers to terminal patients. Hospice staff OD’ed my grandmother with morphine sulfate for example. That would be murder by statute, but to me it was the best thing that happened to her at the time.

Not sure what you mean by the strategy comment. It seems like you are saying that I would basically be playing a game with her regarding respect?

Regarding her worth, she is educated and intelligent. She has a good deal more patience than I do. Her line of work involves trying to make people’s lives better. I do consider her to be a high worth person.

Continuation of previous post — back in the States again, and have a real keyboard 🙂 Made a decision to not let the a** affect how I interacted with others. Found a lot of friendly people up there.

Had a great time. Coming back was a bit bittersweet as I also hate the end of trips. Was an interesting experience; things just clicked. Learned that some of the places I wanted to see were typically closed. However, at every such structure, when I arrived, there was somebody who could and was willing to let me in. When I wanted to see something, wound up getting there with enough time to see all of it. Never had that happen before where things just seemed to line up. Heck, even the border crossings were easy.

Not sure what to think of how things just fit together. In the past, things always felt “hard” and difficult. Working on trying to put together what conspired to make this trip as easy and enjoyable as it was.

Anita, with regard to your value comments, I guess that I have a bit of a different philosophy. I believe that there is no intrinsic special value in being human; i.e. we are all humans simply because our respective mothers and fathers were humans. To me, what makes the value in a person, beyond the possible potential to reproduce and continue the species, is what he/she does and does not do.