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  • in reply to: Can't trust my feelings re break-up #60398
    Pippa
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    Michael I find you post a little irritating, insensitive and completely irrelevant to the conversation at hand.
    I disagree with almost everything you said. As far as I’m concerned it is a deli and I don’t have to settle for the first inoffensive idiot (not that my boyfriend is either of those things, really) that will put up with me. Nor does my Boyfriend, you or anyone else. Basically the only point I agree with you on is that we can’t expect “old reliable” to be there waiting. Which is my dilema, do I stick with my current, great boyfriend or take the risk of looking for an even better one? This is my first serious relationship. I’ve never been in love before. I worry that I don’t love him enough.
    If it wasn’t for the long distance of course I’d stay with him, I love spending time with him but I just don’t know if we’re ready to be committed to each other completely, the way we’d have to be in a long distance. And is it fair of my to make him leave his friends and family and come live with me just because my career opportunities are limited where we are from?
    This isn’t about me waking up one morning and saying “You bore me I’m going to find someone better, see you later.”
    This is; I love and care for you but I don’t know if we’re meant for each other or ready for this level of commitment, or I’m giving/receiving all the love I should be.

    I get that you’re upset and angry but your post was just bitter and offensive. Also being a “good guy” is literally the bare minimum. My boyfriend is also a good guy, so is any other guy I would ever even look at. But he’d also have to be funny, interesting, compatible with me, like babies and animals, not be too interested in sport, be a good cook, be just the right amount of messy etc. etc. Being a good guy doesn’t mean you were a good match for her.

    Anyway, I’m meeting my boyfriend tomorrow to talk things over and see if we are going to get back together, I think we are.I want to so much, but I’m also so apprehensive that we’re just doing it for the wrong reasons but I guess only time will tell.

    in reply to: Can't trust my feelings re break-up #60357
    Pippa
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    Thanks for the reply Jennifer.
    I definitely think my man is worth fighting for but at the same time, I keep thinking that I’m young and if the relationship doesn’t make me happy then maybe I should just walk away, but I can’t imagine finding someone else like him, or better. Since we’re going to be long distance for so long, I keep wondering if it’s worth having a relationship based solely on how it could be or it might be two years from now.
    But I’m so up and down about it. I just wish I could “just see how it feels” like everyone keeps saying but I don’t even know what that means! How can I when I don’t even know what I’m supposed to be feeling? I can barely tell the good feelings from the bad.
    And I spent so much time working on myself that I’m finally happy in myself and by myself. I feel like I’ve screwed my self over. Is a relationship ever worth it when you know you can pick yourself up and move on without him? I’m just so confused.

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