@TeaK

Thank you Teak for taking your time to help me out.

But yes it makes me wonder his intensions on why he hides me, is he trying to keep his options open with other women and with hiding his relationship status it is obviously much easier to do that. Is he embarrassed of me because I might not be the type of person physically they expect him to be with… or not sure what else it could be, because I know he’s mentioned to me in the past has taken his ex to his job before… unless he was lying about that too.

“How does he treat you otherwise? Is he judgmental, condescending, disrespectful? Does he act like he is superior to you and is criticizing you a lot?”

In regards to your questions, no he’s actually none of the above. Its just his job we have an issue with.

Sometimes I’ll even tell him Im going to stop by just to get a reaction out of him and he says things like “its out of the way why drive there.” Or “Its not like we can even talk if you go, Ill be busy working.” Its never excitement.

@Teak

Hello Teak, thank you for your reply.

Thats the same thing I think, like what is he hiding? Its been 5 years and cant wrap my head around how I haven’t been mentioned once. He works in a place where conversations with coworkers are happening all the time, and not somewhere he is isolated and just focused on work. I know at my job if someone one brings up a restaurant or a place to travel ill say something as simple as “oh yeah me and my boyfriend have been there too”.

I feel the same way, not respected. Right now he says “Im not hiding you; Im just don’t bring up my personal life.” But I just wonder what his response is if someone just straight asks him “Are you single?” will he say yes to avoid talking about me?  I just feel hurt and unappreciated and HIDDEN. Ive thought about showing up to his job, but at this point I would feel like a fool, because I think everyone will be very shocked his been in a 5 year relationship.

Is this a deal breaker? Or is it worth salvaging for the 5 year sake?

Xo Thank you.