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  • in reply to: This constant need to move to new places #341464
    T6ny B0ddha
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    Hello Peter,

    Thank you for your answer. As you say I am well aware of the negative aspects of constantly moving but I still do it, which means  that I find something appealing that outweighs the drawbacks.

    It’s not easy to clearly point out what actually appeals me, but your message made me think of the following possibilities :

    – In most relationships, (love/friendship/colleagues/ any relationship), I like the process of getting to know people rather that the actual outcome. It may seems horrible, but for instance the parts I enjoy the most in a relationship is the phase in which I learn to meet the person, and it’s quite the same in a friendship. I am not saying I throw people away once I have met them, but out of the many people I meet I stay close to just a limited number of them. Maybe what appeals me in moving is therefore having a  chance to discover new people, but on another hand I am unsatisfied by the outcome, which is keeping up with only a fraction of the people I meet.

    – Another point is the fact that I easily put pressure on myself, and I quickly get the feeling that I have “wasted” one opportunity, which could give me the wish to start over somewhere else.

    – Finally, I get extremely bored by the places (I mean physical places), landscapes, cities, language, etc.

    It’s hard for me to point out which of these reasons is really what makes me wanna move, but what stands out from what I just wrote is clearly my wish to “get a new chance”, get a new chance to meet people, to do better, to find my place. And I think this wish is in contradiction with another wish which is developing surrounded by friends, family and stability.

    I also think I get bored to easily in general, and this traits reflects it very well.

    So If, as you said, the benefits I get from living like this are higher than what it costs me I should just continue, but I don’t know if it will allow me to fulfill some important objectives such as settling, having a wife, a good job, etc.

    Regards,

    TB

    in reply to: This constant need to move to new places #341448
    T6ny B0ddha
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    Dear Anita,

    Thank you for your reply. I actually never really thought about this  whole thing having a link with my childhood. It is actually a quite interesting idea, but I am not sure it comes from me being bored at home when I was a child, as I had a quite happy and fulfilling childhood. Also, as this need appeared quite recently (last 5 years approx), I would rather link it to some more recent things.

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