Dear Amy,

I am so sorry this happened to you. There is nothing to forgive here. You did not cheat on your boyfriend. You were incapacitated, and a man took advantage of the situation. This was not consensual, as you were in no condition to provide consent. You were raped. I am sorry that your ex-boyfriend does not understand this and can’t find it within himself to be supportive. I would recommend you find a rape crisis center, a therapist, or a friend who can help you deal with this situation. This was not your fault. You have every right to drink as much as you want with the expectation that you will not end up raped. Please, please get some help.