Try starting with what you enjoy? What money do you need to earn? Are you just in it for the money? Will your Ph.D. help anyone else? Can you afford to do a Ph.D.? There are so many questions you need to jot down and answer way before you get down to the course and where to study!  I was told after my first first class gons degree to ‘hurry up do your masters as you can easily do your Ph.D. with your brains etc etc!  Thankfully I don’t need to prove anything to anyone! So my advice after two degrees with firsts is to take your time!! Blessings RevRy

Dorothee as you are at Uni you have some brains – anxiety is not good – why do you hate yourself :

At uni (speaking as an alumni for two universities) your focus needs to be on why you wanted to go there, is it still as important to you – if it is you need to knuckle down to your studies and try to attain the best grades you can – rel/ships at uni add to stress I know! but if you are in a crisis with your ex NOW is the time to re-focus and study hard or don’t and fail or get a 3rd!

Suffering from anxiety like we do our hourly or minute by minute aim is to try many different things to aid relaxation in doing so the anxiety is reduced – positive affirmations work, you do mediation try a 10 min one on youtube  the honest guys is good avoid drugs and alcohol or other foods / drinks that cause anxiety spikes – also some great self help books there.

Hating yourself – me thinks now is the time to STOP negative thinking breeds negative thinking – so right now grab pen and paper draw a line down the middle and right dislike and love – YOU CAN put at least two things you love about yourself – such as ‘I love the way I laugh at myself when I trip up when no one is watching’ ‘I love the way I make beans on toast and throw in cheese to make a great snack’ you get the picture.

In simple – STOP the hate and inner self telling you you need this and that – today or tomorrow turn self into others and do 1 thing for somebody else such as open a door for someone, say Thank You after service given, drop some money into a charity box, the best is if no one knows you have done something such as give to a charity etc trust me start small it will change your view of you – plus you can ‘Love yourself for giving without reward’ blessings Ry x

Hannah Hi there, long story short, it is your own feelings that you are having problems with, love is love, beauty is only skin deep, my husband often says ‘Your very good looking aren’t you? I’m lucky to have you’ I dismiss his comments and sometimes in guest say yes you are! lol.  I was always getting attention from guys, getting touched up, groped, numbers pushed into my hands and clothes etc but not one did I ring or end up with!  My husband doesn’t feel attractive (this bits for you) but I know he is that’s what drew me to him, he’s as lovely inside as out! still is after many years, Soooo chilax or you may ruin your rel/ship.

Take a chill pill, go with the flow, enjoy the attention he receives BUT know whose bed he will share at the end of the night YOURS x blessings x