thanks everyone for your great advice, the last few days have been better & I find myself not thinking about the situation as much, I know it won’t change much as it has been this way for many years so it is getting somewhat easier, I am not continuing the pattern as my own daughter means the world to me & I would never treat her this way but I won’t make excuses for him either. My mother and rest of my family treat me with much love & respect so I try to focus on that as much as I can, to be honest now that I look back at it, it really shouldn’t have surprised me that he/she acted this way as I got my hopes up that it would be different, rather naive on my part-thanks again, by the way I love this website, Tiny Buddha!