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PrashParticipantPowerful words, Natalie.
Wishes for your best life ahead.
Take care.
PrashParticipantDear Chil,
You sound like you are introverted and due to the people around you who fail to support you, you are having difficulty expressing yourself. You don’t have to be like others. You just need to be yourself. Often it is when we try to do something that we are not comfortable that we get distressed.
Do you journal your thoughts? Mainly to discover what you truly want. The circumstances may not allow you to get what you truly want for now but if you have a clarity in that, that may be a starting point for you.
Try look for small things that are under your control and do it your way, the way you want it.
Do you like your job? Can you find things in your job that you truly love to do.
Take care
PrashParticipantDear Julie,
Nice to read from you about the progress.
Very thoughtful of you to send those gifts. Happy to know that you and your friend are back to speaking again.
Don’t be hard on yourself calling it a punishment. Maybe it is an opportunity for you to have a good time by yourself. 🙂
Take care
PrashParticipantHi Areadne
Thank you for reaching out.
You are certainly not responsible for anyone’s actions. That person alone is the cause of his misery. Compassion is primarily for your own self.
I am sorry if my post has caused you any distress. If you feel it will help you, please post about your self in this forum. There are many who will help you. Language will not be a barrier as the communication I feel is directly between souls/inner selves (for want of a better word)
PrashParticipantDear Anita,
Thank you so much for your response.
There is newness of life, yes, but there is also a lot of yesterday in the new day.
Very true. It never goes away. Awareness of what in yesterday is holding you back and what is not plus a realization that yesterday is gone helps in growth.
Some perceive death as transient, saying there is life after death, in heaven or hell or in another body, or a new earth. That is a perception. In reality once dead, the brain starts decomposing, and the person who was, is no more.
Seems like reality but is it – no sure way of knowing, isn’t it? One of my beliefs is that there are many things in life that cannot be comprehended.
PrashParticipantHi Helen,
Being in a relationship is a sure way to your own self growth and development. This is where you discover aspects of yourself which you thought were long gone. And of course effective communication is the only way a relation can progress.
You mention about fears of rejection. It may be useful for you to reexamine those and see how you can resolve them. The inner critic is indeed something that can paralyze your best efforts. One of the ways in which you can deal with the critic is to crystallize and write the thoughts that the inner critic is causing. Very often you realize that those thoughts don’t have any solid basis and even if they do writing it out helps in finding ways to resolve those thoughts.
PrashParticipantDear Anita,
Thanks a lot for your input.
“True to reality””Seeing things as they are”. Aren’t these dependent on who is seeing and under what circumstances they are perceiving it, their background. Won’t these things color that reality and affect the way it is seen. What do you thing could help a person override any undermining influences and see things truly for what they are?
I ask this, as when I am practicing mindfulness, I feel sometimes as if there is no reality – everything is transient, comes and goes. There doesn’t seem to be anything permanent. When I go to sleep it is like a death and then I wake up again – a new day a new life.
- Nature of the hurt – relatively harmless vs harmful
- Age the hurt has taken place – adulthood vs childhood
- One time event vs ongoing situation
- Hurting party corrects and changes vs not doing so
- A hurt in the past vs a hurt in the present
- A stranger vs a trusted person
I agree that definitely the approach will be different and so will be the priorities in each of the situations.
Maybe keeping the mind fixed on one’s own healing and ensuring that the path is always directed to that irrespective of the approach or methods used will help in giving a direction to move forward.
Looking forward to hearing from you.
Appreciate your perspective.
PrashParticipantLily, I am sorry to hear that you have been through so much pain. Glad that you are back here and to know your therapist is helping you. Hope you keep meeting this helpful therapist.
Prayers for your strength to move on from your past.
Take care
July 25, 2018 at 9:23 pm in reply to: mom and dad emotionally abusive?need to maintain positvity #218747PrashParticipantHi Zariah,
Your desire to change is your key to a better life. Like you said it is going to take some time till you find another position. It seems as if you are less likely to get emotional support from your parents, is there anyone else you look up to who can provide you that support.
In the time that you are not searching for a job, is it possible for you to read in a library or some place away from home and prepare for your potential next job or maybe a masters course once you have the means to go through it.
Will your former employer be able to guide you as to what kind of job will suit you better or advice you on developing your skills. Maybe you could ask her what she meant by”more initiative”
To maintain a positive outlook, it is important to be proactive about learning, particularly in your field. When you feel that you are doing the little things in your daily life that are important to sow the seeds of foundation for your future career and life, maybe you are likely to feel better.
And like you rightly said this is going through a rough patch and a patch always ends.
Best wishes to you for the life that you have in mind
Take care
PrashParticipantThank you so much, Jaison for your input. 🙂
PrashParticipantHi Maria,
If you feel you need medications, please seek professional help at the earliest.
In this forum, you will find a lot of empathetic voices, some of whom will be able to identify with what you are feeling. If you are okay with it, go ahead and vent it out here.
PrashParticipantDear Anita
Think I mistyped it. What I meant was you seem to be able to do it because of your own experiences.
PrashParticipantHi Julie,
You made those decisions in the state of mind you were in at that time.
Unless you talk to her you will not know what is on her mind. Could you give it some more time. Maybe your best friend is just hurting and probably has not even considered ending friendship as you seem to think.
PrashParticipantDear Anita,
Thank you for your kind words. Very perceptive as always.
Read many of your posts. Felt a recurrent theme of taking a reader through their childhood experiences. I understand that that is through your own experiences. Hope you are healing well. Have you been able to forgive completely and let go?
PrashParticipantNice one, Jeaaaal 🙂
Anita,
Great to hear from you. About my passion it seems to keep changing – during my student days it used to be about completing my studies. Later as a teacher, teaching and educating was my passion. Currently it seems to be discovering myself – my thoughts, my feelings – the full package.
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