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    Manyfires
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    Dear Mary:

    Have you ever read the Four Agreements? I’ve listed them below. They’re all good…but it’s the last one I’m thinking of for you. If you have done the best you can to let your friend know the truth and how you feel, then you have done all you can. I “feel” your sense of loss and regret but please be tender with yourself.

    Many Blessings.

    “Be Impeccable With Your Word – Speak with integrity.  Say only what you mean.  Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.  Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

    Don’t Take Anything Personally – Nothing others do is because of you.  What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.  When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

    Don’t Make Assumptions – Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.  Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.  With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

    Always Do Your Best – Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick.  Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse, and regret.”

    #224031
    Manyfires
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    Just so you don’t feel alone…but not to minimize your feelings…everyone I know right now is going thru a MAJOR CHANGE. Something about how you talked about the new place made me feel this is the right time and the right place. I agree with Anita. Talk to him. He may be going thru some doubt issues himself. Confide in each other and be each other’s strength. And remember to breathe when it gets scary. You can do this! Blessings.

    #222025
    Manyfires
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    I have closed those doors to the family but I haven’t closed the door to my daughter yet as I can feel her struggling with some issue surrounding me. I shared how I felt (saddened) and that’s all I can do. I would like all the anger and resentment to drain away and no longer feel like a victim that I don’t have decent family relationships.

    *BTW, I had a difficult time finding my way back to this post on my cell phone. I thought there might be a link in the email I received but there wasn’t one.

    #222017
    Manyfires
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    Thank you Anita for your words…and your compassion. Both are appreciated. Yes, I see now that I was a scapegoat. And you are right about my daughter having a son in her teens.

    I realize there’s not much I can do about this except to shut the door and walk away. Trouble is, the hurt and the pain doesn’t go away when I shut the door. I still feel the anger and resentment and it colors all my relationships.

     

    Any suggestions about letting go (and I mean really letting go) of the hurt and anger?

     

    Blessings!

     

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