Hi Anita, thank you so much for your reply and I am truly sorry for getting back to you late. I was out of town and didn’t get to reply to the last 2 posts.

You weren’t being rude at all! And I wasn’t intentionally ignoring you and Inky. I was planning on replying to both of you as well.

Like Mimi said, your post was very insightful and I appreciate it. It helped me stop indulging in self pity and made me wonder what happened to him throughout his life. He did often mention that he was the victim of racism/ bullying, growing up in the 80s. I guess what you said is very accurate. I’m still unsure why he had to take it out on me…

At first, I thought about addressing the problem to the bullying manager directly. However his comments were getting worse by the day (i.e he said I am just like people who commit suicide and accused me of having anxiety issues when I made small mistakes). It got to the point where I felt like bursting into tears whenever I had to speak to him and I couldn’t even look him in the eyes.

Other than quitting, I felt like going to HR was my last resort…

Anita, I wish you a happy new year and I really enjoy reading your posts!

Hi Jahrin, thanks for your reply. I tend to be the more sensitive, naive and easy going person in the group as well. It’s sad how some people like to take advantage of our friendliness to put us down and feel good about themselves! I didn’t know how to react to bullies at workplace (especially because he was in position of authority) so I tried to laugh it off but was hurting a lot on the inside. Eventually, it got to the point where I felt that it’d be better to get fired than to work for him. As you said, I will try to learn from this experience and know how to hanlde it better in the future. I will ignore/ not respond to rude comments and focus on my work if I ever come across someone like him. I am happy to hear that you know how to deal with such difficult situations now. Happy holidays to you and your family!