And how are you?

• This reply was modified 5 years, 10 months ago by Lily.

Dear anita,

yes, I know and some people have told me before that I have inner strength.

Thank you for your offer and for all your help! Really!

Dear anita,

there were no more messages from him. Except, my facebook says I have a new message when I log out, but there is none. Maybe just a coincidence and a technical problem.

I’m not feeling too good, but it’s o.K. It is probably dumb, but I really had wanted to be friends with him… But his last message shows again that he is only thinking about himself. And I don’t need a “friend” who doesn’t care for me, who probably doesn’t even like me.

Like you, I have been disrespected for a long time. Now I don’t respect myself.

I will go on to work on uni projects now, try to think about something else.

Thank you for your support.

Dear anita,

yes thank you for your help. Without you, I would have surely explained everything to him. I know I would have not able to assert myself like that.

I don’t want to be treated like a worthless person anymore.

Yes, his recent message! Even I can sense the manipulation there. Wouldn’t have expected that of him. He also just tried to call me. Suddenly he cares!!! Before it was o.K. to forget me and talk to me later, to be busy all the time. I think I don’t have to worry anymore that I hurt him.

Yes I don’t want to respond to him again. I want to stay strong.

Hello Lauren. Thank you for your encouraging words. I think it was really for the best to end it and I will feel better in the end.

Dear anita,

I did send it to him… It feels very overwhelming… Everything in me just wants to be nice and talk. But he also didn’t respect my wishes there.

I feel like a very horrible person.

Dear anita,

it is very hard for me to write such a message. It feels bad. I feel bad for writing like this. A part of me wants to explain everything. But I truly believe that nothing good can come from this. We could never be friends. I don’t need someone who doesn’t have time for me and only writes to me “how are you”.

What if I write him: It is over, we agreed to break up on the phone. Like I told you, I want to move on.

Dear anita,

I feel a little worried… Yes, I am worried that I might have hurt him still. But it will take time before I can truly change… But I feel relatively calm.

I don’t think he will respond, I have a feeling that he is not very bold (if that is the right word).

For now I will go offline and read a little or something… Do something relaxing. I just want to do calm, nice things with people I feel comfortable with. I will be happy, if he doesn’t write me again. It just confuses and distracts me.

If there are any news, I will tell you. Thanks again for your help!