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  • December 26, 2015 at 6:33 pm in reply to: Jack & Anita / Tiny Buddha #90643
    jock
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    don’t be put off by Anita and me having an alliance. We are both individuals with unique points of view.
    welcome back who 🙂

    December 26, 2015 at 6:31 pm in reply to: Individuals Suffer #90642
    jock
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    Anita
    we will agree to disagree on certain issues, whilst maintaining for respect for each other.
    Now that sounds like a healthy relationship to me. 🙂

    December 26, 2015 at 6:27 pm in reply to: A challenging relationship #90638
    jock
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    not sure I like the word agitate, anita.
    Please don’t advise me to have a showdown with this guy.
    I don’t want it to be a win/lose scenario. (and not just because I would probably lose 🙂 )
    The challenge for me is to stay mature, calm and not react to anything he says or anything I hear about him from another sibling.
    In some ways I’d like to just sever our relationship altogether. Now that sounds drastic and it isn;’t practical as I still have to negotiate him in family reunions.
    I disagree with everything he stands for now: which is “reputation, reputation, reputation”. he worships the God of being well-thought of. Actually I find him boring to talk to.
    Oops slipping into vitriol mode.

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    December 26, 2015 at 5:53 pm in reply to: Individuals Suffer #90635
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    To not be true to oneself is self-betrayal.

    December 26, 2015 at 5:28 pm in reply to: Individuals Suffer #90634
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    but it is hard to be even be a loner on Tiny Buddha, isn’t it?
    Our alliance on here, was more accidental than deliberate. yet it has helped both our survival . Would you agree?
    Alliances in real life help is what I’m saying. It is really tough on your own.

    December 26, 2015 at 5:15 pm in reply to: Individuals Suffer #90630
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    in prison?
    prisoner of their own cowardice, you mean, I guess.

    December 26, 2015 at 4:36 pm in reply to: who #90624
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    re the tag thread that who started:
    I think who might look back one day and see that he over-reacted to the lack of responses and obedience to his rules.
    Perhaps lack of experience on Internet forums made him naïve in this area.
    I have started countless threads on different forums, that did not receive one response. I almost treated it as a test of my stamina and resolve, not to care. The key is to not personalise. “My thread is me”. “If they reject my thread, they reject me.” No they don’t. It means they are not interested in your particular topic or they find your approach too limiting. Or they are afraid you will be upset by a different opinion. So out of respect they don’t respond.
    Oversensitivity is often rooted in the ego. I know because my ego gets me into trouble too. I can easily misinterpret. Sometimes I am right, but sometimes I am wrong. it is fine to express uncertainty about a person’s intentions. But it is arrogant, to assume your suspicions are 100% correct.
    We all have an obligation to question our own tendency to react to something in a negative way. And we really need to work on the way we communicate.

    December 26, 2015 at 3:11 pm in reply to: Individuals Suffer #90622
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    But then there is the suffering of not being true to self.

    December 26, 2015 at 2:31 pm in reply to: Individuals Suffer #90621
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    I think we need the courage to risk losing the support of even our closest friend or family. Sometimes we need to end a relationship, a friendship because we no longer respect each others’ view of the world. We are no longer on similar journeys. that hurts and makes us doubt ourselves.

    December 26, 2015 at 2:10 pm in reply to: who #90617
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    who
    if you area reading this, you’ll know that we do care.
    I thought we were doing well on here together.
    It surprised and shocked me that you left so soon.
    I didn’t want you to leave, that is for sure.

    December 25, 2015 at 4:51 pm in reply to: How do you guys deal with death of a loved one? #90590
    jock
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    My friends call me LLama J. Sometimes the wisdom just gushes out of me like a fountain. 🙂
    sorry to hijack the thread, ………..

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    December 25, 2015 at 3:17 pm in reply to: How do you guys deal with death of a loved one? #90588
    jock
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    OK, you try to be a good person, but get crap thrown in your face. I’m trying to imagine what this means in real terms. It is a similar feeling I have had in the past too. But what I discovered was, that I mistook “good” for being passive, non-assertive. Now being a good listener, means being an active listener, asking questions and even challenging people sometimes, in a respectful way. Good ol’ boundaries. Don’t let people speak to you rudely. Nip it in the bud early. “Madeleine, are you being deliberately rude? That tone of voice sounds like it. That’s all.” Then they know that you are aware of what is actually happening in the moment. Now, this is still something I am learning, and have not mastered so, don’t think I am an expert.
    But don’t give up on being a good person. Just redefine “good”.

    December 25, 2015 at 1:47 pm in reply to: How do you guys deal with death of a loved one? #90586
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    One idea. Try to give the same kind of love and support to others that she did. Carry on her good work.

    December 25, 2015 at 1:46 pm in reply to: Self-esteem and Self-love #90585
    jock
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    Update
    Today Boxing Day 2015
    aim to increase both before Boxing Day 2016
    fasting a possible strategy

    December 25, 2015 at 1:42 pm in reply to: Venting!! Time to let go… #90583
    jock
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    I think Peppermint is right. We are not a perfect community here, giving perfect wisdom to those seeking it. We are all struggling on our journeys. No one knows all the answers and it is important for us to remember that. Just be glad for someone to take an interest in your problems and suggesting options to face and solve them.

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