I feel that we as people get into routines, because it’s a false sense of control, telling our brains that we have order in our life

Exactly what I think too, who.

Ok another hot one here today. a max of 39 degrees centrigrade. I’ve already been to the beach because it is too hot to go there in the middle of the day.
Christmas approaches. It means less every year. I think it means most for families with young children. I can remember as a child Christmas just hooked me. I was fantasising about what present I would get. it really was a special time of year. For me growing up in a huge household of 7 boys and 3 or 4 boarders that my mother took on as well. It was like living in a hotel’motel. I can remember my mother saying to one of my brothers and I “if you wash all the walls of the house this Christmas holidays, I’ll give you 2 dollars. Wow! 2 dollars. ( a lot of money in the sixtees) My brother and I did the job in a week and used the 2 dollars to buy about 10 presents! amazing! Miss that chrsitmas spirit that only a large family can provide.
Guess you guys in the States are freezing or snowed this christmas?

Turned out that guy was a bully as other employees complained to me about him. Might have been something to do with him being ex-army, as he expected us to obey without question, “yes sir, no sir”. My experience in the workplace over the years has taught me that there are a lot of damaged people(control freaks) out there. That’s OK except when they have power over you.

thanks for your thoughtful posts, Aislynn

I remember one guy at a workplace who was teaching me the job was advising me: “you must be in control, you can’t let the customer control you. You can’t show any weakness. if they see a weakness, you’re dead! You must act totally confident!” This was my first day and I’m thinking to myself” I don’t think I’m suited to this. the customer is going to see straight through me.”