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Yes I too am a single mom.
Firstly and importantly yes it does get better and it all starts with your attitude.
I get what you mean but unfortunately that is just how it is sometimes.
You say your so stretched thin, you need to change that as you cannot feel good about yourself and your situation if you feeling so stressed. Self love indulge in yourself, you are worth it. self care look after yourself do nice things for just you. Even if it’s just 10mins.
You cannot and will never control those thoughts of others. They have absolutely no understanding of your situation , instead of focusing on them and him, focus on you self your mood your self love focus all the energy on yourself and your child as you two are the most important people to you. With practice daily practice it comes naturally and everytime you think about what they think or what he does etc purposely stop your thoughts and tell yourself u don’t need those toxic stressful thoughts and focus on what’s cool about you and your child- focus on something fun you can do together. And remind yourself they just don’t no the truth!
KaraParticipantThank you so much.
Yes I most certainly feel guilty and it makes me feel confused and hurt he can do that to me, he constantly talks of how much he loves and adores me and how he pretty much says he cannot live without me. I feel so much pressure.
Most people would love to have someone love them that much so it makes me guilty for being ungrateful too!
I do have issues around him being so much older than me too-especially what others think. I have worked so hard on myself with self love and not letting what people think effect me and it’s been an amazing jorney-but with him I do worry about that.
I see men my age and I wish he was my age I’m physically more attracted to men my age. I know that’s very shallow.
If I choose not to love him and not be with him will I regret.
Im the most unjudgemental and unshallow person so it does not sit well with me at all.
He says I focus on the negative when it comes to him and I should focus on his positives. Rereading this yes I’m totally focused on the negative.
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