@shantigirl

Hi Shantigirl

I am sorry for what has transpired. I know it is a difficult phase that you are going through and some days are going to be good and some days not so good. However, you gotta keep your head above the water and aim for the best.

Sometimes not getting what you want or desire is the BIGGEST blessing you can get from the Universe. I have had so many such blessings in my life and I am so grateful for whoever is watching over me. I know the same being is watching over you.

Hang in there and live in the present moment. Do things that make you sing and dance in joy. Forget about the past and don’t stress about the future. What we do today is determining every second in the future. So make your NOW the best and your future will be bright. Your dreams will unfold right in front of you if you let them.

And one more thing: If a guy who claims to love you but is not willing to sacrifice anything for that love (regardless of culture differences etc), is he worth spending any more tears on ? NO. A beautiful life awaits you. Go make something good out of it 🙂 Do anything but just go out and do it !!!!!

Sending you heaps of love and positive energy. I know you are going to be just fine.

Jasmine

Hi Autumn1001

I am sorry for your leg injury and hope you are feeling better.

It is natural to feel disappointed when you don’t get what you wish for but sometimes, there are significant blessings hidden in these disappointing acts of life. I feel you should cheer up and thank Universe for granting you this disappointment. In due time, the blessings will become obvious if you keep a positive attitude of gratitude.

Say Yes to the Universe. Welcome everything, which comes into your life esp when you do not have control over these situations. You can handle it all.

Get well soon matey and cheer up with a big smile.

Jasmine

@minismita

What an awesome journey you have had ? Amazing !!!

Welcome to NZ. Again, what a place to be in. Have you been to Queenstown as yet ?

One way to know that you are growing spiritually is when people’s questions don’t excite or anger you to the tenth degree. You are able to maintain your inner calm and peace. So congrats on progressing this far.

As for your question – Just simply say, “I appreciate your concern but I don’t feel comfortable sharing this information with you. Can we talk about something else ?” Most often, people will get the message and move away from this line of questioning. It is really up to us as to how much we wish to reveal.

You don’t have to be an open book story. People become open book stories when they are dealing with a lot of issues and need attention. When you feel the calm and peace, you just want to focus on the present and what today has to offer, yeah ? Well, this has been my experience. I still share the authentic version of me with people but I pick and choose the place / time. I don’t lie so I choose silence over verbal diarrhoea in most situations nowadays 🙂 Unfortunately, majority of the people around us are not on the self awareness journey so it becomes tricky when they want to bombard you with insensitive questions.

Hang in there and enjoy your space in NZ. You are in heaven now 🙂

J

Ha Ha @minismita. I forgot all about Rafiki lol.

Now that you have raised a valid point – “I know what you mean, keep my calm and move forward, but at times it gets difficult when people like these don’t want to leave you at peace, at any cost” – let me share an important lesson with you so that you can keep moving forward.

People are merely our reflections. They are our mirrors. What goes inside you gets projected outside in the people that share your energy space….in this case, your lovely flatmate !!! Lets be honest here ok….have you got over the fact that you are still single at 32 and all the other issues that this flatmate has raised ? Could this actually be your inner film ? Only you can answer this for yourself. Until you learn the lessons, you will keep facing such people wherever you go. Change the inner film and people outside will change to reflect that. Others are not the one who are trying to ruin your peace. YOU and YOUR thoughts are the culprit. Take ownership and watch them so that you can work on them and avoid such scenarios in the future.

Think about it, my friend. Life and people are too wonderful to cause havoc in our life. We create everything and every person around us. If you are not liking what is showing outside, change the inner script 🙂

Best wishes,

J

Thanks Everyone.

Hi Alpal

I am sorry that you find yourself in this predicament. We should always do what makes us happy. Sometimes, we think that by following our short term dream is good enough and we forget about the long term happiness and evolving with times.

The most important questions that you need to ask yourself are: Who are you trying to convince ? What are the pros and cons of not finishing your degree or education while you are still young and vibrant ?

Always remember that life can change in a second and does change in seconds whether we like it or not. The only thing, which keeps us from drowning in sorrows is our ability to look after ourselves. If you are able to look after yourself today independent of others and until the day you die (in all aspects – socially, physically, financially, emotionally, spiritually) you are in good hands. Go and do whatever takes your fancy. However, if your answer is NO, then you need to do some serious soul searching. And no one can help you with this soul searching as everyone is on their own journey. Some people will agree with your decision and some will not but no one (including husband or father) can walk your path except for yourself.

Best wishes,

J

Thanks David

Hey Network7 @minismita

WB

What people do is their business. What you do is your business. Similarly, how people choose to make others feel is their business and how you choose to make yourself feel is your business. Mind your business with a smile, which you are doing. Move out with a smile. Some things are not meant to be understood or worth wasting time on. Clear the account and keep moving forward with your head held high up. Don’t get stuck in the rut again, pls

J

Thanks Vince.

Glad to know that your happiness doesnt depend on someone else 🙂

Sorry but I am going to challenge you again here. Why do you love his company and him ? What does that give you ? If you were hitting a downward slope while you met this person and continued on to hit rock bottom, what does that show or tell ? Be honest with yourself. I dont personally need your truth 🙂

Sometimes, our mind plays games with us so that it can go back to its comfort zone of keeping us insane and in constant state of attachment.

Best of luck on your journey. Dont lose your positive streak for anyone ever.

J

@indyblue

Hi Michael

Thanks for your post. I had to sit on it for a few hours. What a strong spirit you are ? Just amazing. There is so much clarity in your words but perhaps, you are not feeling the same clarity in your mind at this present moment.

I am so sorry for your loss. Life is so unpredictable and sometimes, it is hard to make sense of it all. However, from my personal experiences to date, it appears that we only get to deal with life situations that make us stronger and much better version of self. “A straight road doesn’t make skilful drivers”….and similarly, a life without painful incidents doesn’t create a compassionate and kind human being. Keep the happy memories of your wife and focus on what is – a whole life ahead of you waiting to unfold beautifully with other experiences and take you closer to the source of peace and calm that your heart seeks.

Could it be that finding meaningful relationships be difficult as you are still grieving and closed up in your shell ? When you have the strength to be just YOU – unique, quirky, different to 7 billion other humans – you might not feel so lonely and disconnected. Learn to open up when you meet people as there is no other person like you in this world. You are as unique as it gets so there is really no competition and there is no place for judgments, rejection or criticisms from anyone else. No one knows you better than YOU.

So start by being kind to yourself and I assure you that forming connections or making new relationships won’t seem like a difficult task in this new town. All of us are looking for authentic relationships but this starts with us – we need to become the most authentic version of self. Get into the habit of offering thanks to everything and everyone and soon the attitude of gratitude will lead to bigger and better things to be grateful about.

Sending you loads of positive energy and wish you all the best for your journey. A beautiful life is awaiting to unfold if you give yourself a chance to just BE.

Jasmine