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RobertaParticipantHi Thomas
For a long time I did not have the time for formal practice & missed/resented that aspect until a friend & fellow practioner/carer said that looking after our parents is the practice put into real time reality.
Now I am not so busy, but have got out of the habit of extended daily practice, so I am always grateful to make time to sit with others when they request or take up an offer of a session.Been married twice & had more relationships than I can count, so romantic relationships are definitely not my area of strength. The more I understand myself, I realize I was a sense junkie ( giving & receiving sensual pleasure) with limited capacity to put up with bad habits as I judged them whilst ignoring my own faults! Since taking a vow of celibacy I create a lot less havoc in mine & others lives.
I am grateful to this forum as a place where conversations that have a depth & sense of enquiry happen.
I hope your urge to drink is not overwhelming & you are being kind to yourself.
RobertaRobertaParticipantHi Thomas
It is the start of our holiday season on our little island. I had friends stay with me for 5 days, 2 came for a day trip & then a long & slightly lost cousin turned up with his family for a reunion so our grandchildren could meet for the first time. Plus extra shifts with both my jobs.
I just get confused when old threads are reactivated., But funnily enough I got a phone call on Thursday by someone who had been looking for my meditation sessions & found my number on a very old website about our island, so we met up today & did a wonderful loving kindness meditation.
Off shortly for a sunset walk with a dear friend who visits the island every couple of month or so.
Hope deep peace returns to you & your wife’s relationshipMay 30, 2026 at 11:38 am in reply to: Confused on How to Deal With This Side of My Boyfriend: Am I overreating? #458259RobertaParticipantHi Anita
You are the homecoming queen. live, love & laugh your way to freedom
RobertaMay 30, 2026 at 11:30 am in reply to: Who’s Here—Really? A Gentle Roll Call for Our Tiny Community #458258RobertaParticipantHi
I am still here. Working & a stream of visitors for the last 8 days meant little or no time to be present electronically.
best wishes
RobertaRobertaParticipantHi
AnitaSorry that you Bogargt has wet your bed. I hope it was just a passing phase.
Sorry i have been out of loop, I dont know where the time goes.
My satellite dish fell onto the rook last night & the wind kept bouncing on the tiles above my bedroom in sounded like a giant doing a tap dance on the roof. This was the room I was going to put my friends in when they visit at the end of the week, so I had to spend most of today spring cleaning another room for them to use, gosh I have accumulated so much stuff, where is Maria Condo when you need her.
Anyway off to bed, hope you have a dry night
RobertaRobertaParticipantHi Anita
What’s your plans for the weekend? Have you found a replacement for the winery & tap room? I rarely go to a pub, sometimes out for a bar meal with family or friends, but I have been to 2 boardgames nights at pub next to a beach this month with my son.
What kind of music do you like to dance to? I enjoy dancing & singing loudly & badly who cares if there is no-one around.
Once again I hear my bed calling, my age must be catching up with me
RobertaRobertaParticipantHi Anita
I think it is lunch time for you now, where here the sun is on its way down turning my neighbors eucalyptus tree a lovely bronze color & the sky is a patchwork of blue & what looks like rain clouds. I am off to read in bed shortly after a day on my hands & knees cutting grass & watching the ants go by.
Hope you & Bogart are having a good day.
RobertaRobertaParticipantHi Anita
I am not on facebook aka Faceache or twitter. I know that I probably miss out on lots of good stuff by eschewing them, but at least I don’t get myself wound up or cause any harm, my mind can be so judgmental at times & I might mindlessly spew out garbage & make mine or someonelse’s situation worse. I live in a smallish community, so I try to walk my talk & not hide from or whitewash or exaggerate my past, other than saying that I have had 637 exes!
I too enjoy the slower pace of this forum, but have to pop off & feed the chickens before facilitating a walking meditation session.
Best wishes
RobertaRobertaParticipantDear Gabrielle
I am sorry that you are struggling because of your decision to break up with your bf. can I ask how long were you together for?
Did he ever do anything that made you feel/believe that he would leave you for someone else or stop caring about you?
In what ways do you feel that the pair of you were not communicating well?
RobertaRobertaParticipantHi Em
I note that you have not mentioned what happens after these fights, nor do you speak about how you feel other than the word love, do you feel supported & nurtured with a sense of freedom alongside side security in this relationship? Do you enjoy emotional drama in your life?
How is the rest of your life outside of this relationship?
Do you live alone? How safe do you feel?
I know that I am asking you a lot of questions & I hope that you will answer both Anita’s & I’s posts, we are here for you
RobertaRobertaParticipantHi Peter
For years I was confused I thought that it was god fare ing as in being well with god in a nice way, then I asked a devout christian about this phrase & he explained it was God fearing! that made me confused in a different way, if a god, is loving, kind, compassionate, what do we have to fear about him? I guess that is why I like Buddhist philosophy/psychology more.
RobertaRobertaParticipantDear Niri
I have just read your two posts.
I can see two or three things that leap out at me, I could be way off the mark.
He is doing something that is so common place with many humans nowadays, the way they focus more on electronic interactions than human connection.
He tries to reciprocate some of your actions ie writing to you – you judge his attempts ( unfairly?) we all cant be Shakespeare!It is hard to have a fulfilling relationship at a distance. I would quickly run out of things to say for a whole hour each day. I visit my father in hospital most days & struggle to have something new to say.
My fiancé was not very proactive on the affectionate front either verbally or physically. When we started to live together I did not make a huge demands of him, I explained that a kiss goodbye in the morning & a kiss goodnight each day would help me feel better, yes I did have to gently remind him occasionally, eventually one morning he drove off to work & then a few minutes later he came back I asked him what was wrong he said ” I forgot to kiss you goodbye”
I hope that you can come to some accommodation between your needs/wants & his capacity to give you what you think/feel is the right/appropriate response due to not being heard/seen by other people in the past/present.
kind regards
RobertaRobertaParticipantDear Confused
Have you come across Eckart Tolle & Pain Body, he has talks on this subject on you tube. It may help you get a slightly different take on your situation
RobertaRobertaParticipantDear Ms L Duchess
Congrats on getting your own home.
Just this weekend I was out for a long walk with a fairly new acquaintance & they asked me if I was still friends with the people I went to school with some 50 years ago. The honest answer was mainly no, I do not have a deep friendship with my childhood peers, on analysis my friendship group is based on our commonality of having a deep spiritual life even though we come from different backgrounds & religions.
I hope that you find your deep joy.
Best wishes
RobertaRobertaParticipantHi
I think it was Shurin Suzuki said ” We are all perfect & we could all do with some improvement”
Ah master Wabi sabi it is your imperfections that make you beautiful. -
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