Hi Rica,

How long was the most current relationship, and how long was the one two years ago? It is really hard on the mental with situations like these—I totally sympathize with you! There is light at the end of the tunnel, though. 🙂

Hi anita,

yes, i asked him if he saw a future with us after a month. he said that he wasn’t sure, but that he likes and cares for me a lot. he said he wasn’t sure if he was mentally ready because of his life circumstances. so, i was pretty upset and was almost on the verge of tears—i didn’t kiss him goodbye. i also told him that he’s basically wasting my time. i just reacted childishly instead of being more understanding and taking what he said at face value. i have since kind of forgiven myself for that, but not fully.

here’s the thing, though: he told me a couple weeks prior that he wanted a relationship and would say relationshipy things a lot. but then he’d tell me he’s scared. in retrospect, he was was telling me ultimately that he just wasn’t ready and clearly he didn’t know what he really wanted, but i had my rose-colored glasses on. also, i think we moved really fast. regardless, i want to get over him.