Hi All-

Thank you for your feedback/suggestions. I’ve taken it to heart and have reflected on it in how I manage other relationships in my life.

I wanted to give you all an update…

It was his birthday a couple weeks ago and I attended the gathering with some other friends and his wife. It wasn’t a celebration. He was mostly grumpy and bummed out. Long story short, I received several apologetic texts from him afterward about his negative outlook, bad behavior (openly arguing with his wife at the restaurant), etc. In the end he said he needs to seek help (therapist), knows that he is depressed and needs to work on himself. I was able to tell him I want to remain friends and work colleagues– and our topics of conversation need to be focused on work while at work. He was receptive and understood. Even stated he knew he was over sharing with me. I’m relieved we were able to hash things out and the last few days our interactions have been pleasant.

Thanks again!

Thank you all. I know I’ve been dealing with his bullshit for a really long time and I’ve said many of the things you suggested to myself, but I couldn’t convince myself that I’m strong enough to walk away. For some reason, deep down I want him to contact me and for it to work out.

@anita: I do care about him and worry about his well being, but like I said, I feel like this time I won’t ever hear back from him.

@trianglesun: I know I deserve better. I guess I’m really just scared of being rejected and alone.

@matty: I’m not happy and I don’t want it to continue on like this. I suppose he’s made the decision for me at this point.