It can be difficult not to invest youself in a job

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if he is flirting on Instagram on and off, it is clear the relationship (not you) does fulfill his needs ( what ever they are …. and most likely he does not know what his real needs are ) . The first rush of love is all consuming , I suggest you find a better partner to love, someone who is prepared to dedicate them selves to you ….. this is especially important at the very beginning , as you get to know each other

Generally when couples break up, they break up for a good reason. As they say let them go free and if they really loved you they will come back. Before social media a break up meant exactly that, with zero contact . Now with social media you can hold on tight by checking up constantly . I suggest you have no contact for over a year and then call to ask for a coffee, basically reset the relationship , give it a second chance as both of you will have learnt and matured.