Natalie,

I can say that I’m in the same zone what you explained in your post. Infact minutes ago, I was thinking and planning to rejoice my weekend. Surprisingly, the vulnerable feeling has come down for me over time and now I like to enjoy my space.

My friends also say that I should be open to dating, but I’m still not ready…I try to be open n then i go back to ‘no no no’..:-)

To answer your question Do you ever get to a point when the silence is a place of peace and not something to be feared?
. ….Yes, I do, not sure if others feel that too.

Blessings to you my dear… Cheers!

Dear Zaica,

The words that come to my mind right now are ‘It happens only in India’:-)

Almost every family here, has a drama at home, esp. when it’s a joint family. I feel sorry for all the drama you had to go through from your in-laws.

I will share a lesson I have seen learnt in a hard way – Always do what you want for your life.
Excerpts: I have seen guys getting married often for the sake of their parents. And I have also seen them suffer too much and waste precious years of life after all the drama that occurs later.

It’s good that your family is supportive of you; but you’re not a child who needs directions from them to do and not do certain things. Aah, I remember a phrase I had read somewher..’Figure out what you want, and know how to ask for it’. See if it helps. Please pardon me if any of my words have hurt you or if I have been rude in my post.

And my dear, just prayers don’t help. Remember? ‘God helps those who help themselves’.

You’re listening too much on what others want you to do with your life; I would say, stand up for yourself and take a call.

Love and light to you dear!

Dear Susan,

Some words that crossed my mind…. For some people it is not necessary (for them) to communicate that they don’t want the relationship anymore. And when it happens, it’s always a hide and seek game. They hide and we try harder to find out the answers. And it’s very difficult to find out what’s going on in their life; so we must take the clues and carry on rather than waiting for somebody else to come and say that ‘it’s over’.

I too, had the habit of checking the status on social networking sites (which is not healthy at all); and since I inculcated a habit of not going to Facebook atleast, I gained the peace of mind which was lost. It does help! Try it out. When you notice yourself thinking about your ex; occupy yourself in some activity, and try to be with people as far as you can. This too helps to be in another world.

For the words that hurt us; it somehow gets stuck in our head and we keep rewinding it. Try to forgive her for all the harsh/hurtful words. Not for her, but for your peace of mind! Because you’re a worthy, wonderful and an amazing person!

Muah…Stay positive…:-) Cheers!

Hi Laura,

When we have faced torture our mind fears it all the time, just as it happens with a child who has been abused. So I would advise you to be strong and more importantly put up this strong face if that person comes again to torture you. Be calm, polite, composed and strong with your words. And everything around you will change for the better!

Don’t be afraid, and whenever you get any fearful thoughts, remind yourself that nobody has a right to hurt you. You have all the rights to stand up for yourself. And please, detach yourself from people who hurt you, that’s very important.

Love and courage to you my dear…

Hi Susan,

I feel really sorry for what you had to go through. Also, angry and upset, for I don’t know why sometimes some people are not satisified with one person in relationship… Sigh!

I have been in a relationship with a lesbian for 2 years; although I discovered that she has been a flirt in her life,but she always made me feel I was special. I was going through a low phase in my life and I liked the comfort, love and care she extended to me. I later discovered she was dating another colleague during weekends. Thought it would work but I didn’t have the answers I was looking for. To cut the long story short, sometimes we miss to take the clues God sends our way. You’re looking for a formal communication from her on your relation, but you might as well have to gather the clues here and figure out the answer for yourself. She must have already moved on in her life. Why would you want to be stuck in past? You’re a wonderful person and you deserve love, care and compassion! Sending lots of love and compassion your way. Be gentle and kind on yourself. Focus only on yourself at this moment. Keep posting your thoughts here whenever you feel low…

Blessings to you dear Susan…

Try to figure out where did you lose the strength and how to get it back….

Love and courage to you….

Cheer up Kelsi,

Let him decide what he wants. If he really likes you, he will make excuses to be with you!

In love, we get attached to the person emotionally so much that we forget our own selves. I can understand what your going through, sorry for your pain…

Some things that would help you come out of this situation is:

1) Divert your mind by doing things that you like
2) Pamper yourself with anything and everything you like (shopping, eating etc.)
3) move forward and if this guy contacts you, you need to put up a strong face n voice! You’re an amazing n beautiful person, and this is not the end of life..

Aah… Do keep a tab on your self-esteem! It often falls when we fall in love…:-)

Lots of love and positivity to you sweety….

Stay blessed !!!