Dear Bill,

I know what you are going through. I too am concerned about where time is taking us. Whether we are headed down a right or wrong road no one can say for sure. I’ve come to believe that small gestures have profound consequences. For example: I don’t live in the cleanest city. It falls under the category “ordinary” so most cities are not better than mine. We take part in the couple of days that are set apart solely for cleaning up the city. And yes it does look brighter and more lively but I was not taken by the brief nature of the process. It is a shame to see people who’ve helped clean beside you, litter a few days later. What I decided to do is help the city and pick random trash off the street and throw it away. And when people look at you with that hopeful look full of gratitude and delight, in that moment you understand that whatever you are doing, it is bringing hope to all those people who see you. Even though I am only 1 in a city of 100 thousand people I feel special. In that way I am the change I wish to see in the world.

Best regards
Momchil

Dear Clint
I am 19 years old and male. I can imagine what you are going through. Nevertheless I would suggest a different approach. In my opinion you shouldn’t try to control your feelings nor should you burst in anger or jealousy. These feelings have a root and unless you can find that root you will never be able to completely get rid of them. I recommend boosting your self-confidence (not saying that is the issue, but it couldn’t hurt). I know what it’s like to be on the receiving end of jealousy. It was very unpleasant for me, although some people like it and seek it. Have you talked to yoir girlfriend anout it? If she has chosen you, she has chosen you for a reason. She hasn’t chosen that guy at the bar or the other one at… Jealousy csn be quite suffocating for some people and unless she is okey with it or forces it in some way you should look for the aforementioned roots. Last but not least you shouldn’t worry about it much. Seldom does worrying help.

Best regards
Momchil

Dear Jenny,
I grew up with divorced parents and I am thankful that none of them had full custody. My brother and I lived mostly with our mother. Even though she argued and disagreed with my father’s mother, she urged us to stay with our father from time to time. He was not the best father, but lets not dig any deeper into that. In a couple of years we had grown quite a bit. Spending time with our dad impacted every aspect of our lives, but it had a more profound effect on him. He is no longer the person he once was nor is our grandmother the same. Once they had started to focus their attention on us rather than our mother they became warm-hearted and caring, which they were not during the first few years. What I am trying to say is that the said person might not have the perfect attitude towards your children now, but that can change with time. You should not worry about that at the moment, for worry will do nothing but waste your time and leave you busy doing nothing. I am not saying you should not pursue full custody. By all means, you are free to do what you want. In my opinion both decisions would be equally right and wrong or in other words…just different.

Best regards
Momchil

Dear Tia,
I acquainted myself with depression a while ago. Most people do not understand it. They tend to think it’s just an excuse or something that necessarily requires medication. It is neither. Yes, it is a serious condition but medication is not the answer.It may help and it may not. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-eBUcBfkVCo he uses simple language and it is easy to understand, nothing you don’t already know I suppose. The way I think about depression may seem a bit off. Depression is a prejudice just like so many other things. It’s like putting dark grey glasses on – everything seems grey, neutral, without a purpose. I think you should spend time alone with yourself. Though you should not beat yourself up but rather listen to yourself. Let go of every emotion. Let go of every thought. Silence the brain, silence the heart and the soul will speak(some call it intuition). Before you know it, you will find a door open… a door you never knew existed. I found that door only recently. I’m one of those guys who like to be positive and happy all the time. I had neglected pain before but I did not have the opportunity to do it again. With nothing else left to do I embraced it. Yes I embraced the pain. But then I found something deep inside, something only recently created. It was a path that led me deeper in myself. I understood things that I had disregarded before. I had been biast all this time. My story goes on but I don’t want to tire you with my life. Go and live your life the way you want to. :]

Dear Sassy,
I know exactly how you feel. I’ve been in that situation and found my own way out of it. Everybody has a different path and so I will share with you what helped me.
I remeber how my last ex made me feel. It was amazing. A few weeks after we had broken up I still had feelings for her and I could not shake them off. My heart and my brain disagreed with each other. What helped me was a moment of peace and silence. I stood there by myself and let go of every thought. No, I did not follow my thoughts nor did I follow my heart. I dismissed them both. Only when they are no longer a factor can you hear the soft voice of your intuition. Odd though it may seem I recommend finding that soothing voice of your own intuition and following the advice it gives you, for better or worse. Only then will you have no regrets.