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AlessaParticipantHi Anita
I’m curious about what you mean about your honesty and vulnerability being used against you too. That definitely contributed to the misunderstanding. ❤️
Personally, I have only let moderators know when conflicts occur, so that they are aware of them. I have never tried to use anything against you. ❤️
AlessaParticipantHi Debbie
I’m sorry that you feel this way. I’ve definitely been there. ❤️
Would you like to share a bit more about it?
It is possible to heal from these things. I learned to like myself. It has been shaken. I’m trying to heal again.
AlessaParticipantHi Everyone
I’m also trying my best to deal with unrealistic expectations and assumptions when it comes to conflict. It is a work in progress…
It is hard when you are afraid of conflict sometimes.
Sorry again Anita! ❤️
AlessaParticipantHi Anita
Thank you for clarifying! I’m sorry for the misunderstanding. I’m sure you can see where the confusion occurred given the recent difficulties. I appreciate that you are committed to following Lori’s rules. ❤️
AlessaParticipantHi Lucidity
That is beautiful to hear that you’re teaching your children communication skills that will help them throughout their lives. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your experiences and perspective as a parent. 😊 It makes sense. It is easy to worry, but it is important to enjoy the present with them.
It seems like teaching my son to walk without a pram may sort itself out when he gets a scooter. His favourite thing right now is pushing his own pram. It helps him to stay focused and gives him something to do instead of wandering.
Today is a rough day. I forgot to take my medicine yesterday and I had a PTSD episode last night and didn’t sleep well. Then the stress today, plus toddler and puppy chaos. I could feel my temper rising. I managed to keep it down though. I’m feeling overwhelmed at the moment.
It is hard being a parent sometimes. Have you ever experienced anything like this?
I am trying to stay calm and reduce stress in my life. I just… don’t know if I can stay here with all of this going on. I’m just trying to hold things together for my son. I wish that I had stronger emotional regulation skills so I could cope with everything. I understand that these are just normal problems. It helped to see my son have fun playing in the mess he had made and of course try to pretend to tidy it up.
I appreciate your potty training advice. The difficulty is he doesn’t like sitting on the potty. He stays on it for a second then complains. The closest he has gotten is peeing on top of the lid of a closed potty whilst standing.
It is lovely learning from a mum who has been through it all before. ❤️
AlessaParticipantOf course, if you think I have misunderstood something and you would like to explain why empathy and words feel fake. I am quite happy to listen.
AlessaParticipantIt is okay to be hurt and angry. I am right now. It will pass. ❤️
AlessaParticipantHow I view you hasn’t changed Anita. I still see your inherent goodness. ❤️
AlessaParticipantOnce you see blame as difficulty interpreting and navigating a naturally complex situation and an immediate focus on what is right in front of you to explain this phenomenon. It doesn’t have quite the same impact. ❤️
AlessaParticipantWhy do I care deeply about these things?
Well, I have learned a lot about communication. Once you see hurtful communication as a misunderstanding or coming from a place where their needs are not being met and craving for their needs to be met it makes you want to treat them with kindness.
Of course, it is still important to have boundaries and take care of yourself. ❤️
AlessaParticipantSadly life is messy and people can be hurt by just about anything. ❤️
AlessaParticipantThere are kinder ways to express genuine feelings. It is perfectly healthy to say. I worry that these things are not true. Not the same connotations as asserting that these things are not true. One involves an assumption about another person. The other is a fear that may or may not be true. It is okay to have fears. Everyone does. ❤️
AlessaParticipantI just really genuinely care about not hurting people and showing them respect, even when I’m hurt.
AlessaParticipantHi Anita
It is okay that you don’t understand me and doubt my authenticity. People do that especially when others are different. I can be hurt and care about people at the same time. I’m confident in that. What you just said hurts. I am able to take care of myself though. The sting of rejection will fade and I will be okay. ❤️
AlessaParticipantHi Yana
I’m working on patience regarding conflict, people have their own feeling, needs and ways of dealing with things. Patience is something that I struggle with. I am keen always to resolve things quickly. I don’t like living with unresolved conflict. I prefer to face it and address it head on. ❤️
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