Hi Tommy

I don’t think that it is true that you haven’t helped anyone. You have definitely helped me.

I appreciate your wisdom, life is not for the faint of heart and sometimes that means taking a look in the mirror to see how we contribute to things. Not everyone wants to do that, but it doesn’t mean that it is any less helpful. People might not be ready in the moment. But memory is a powerful tool.

I think that other seekers, in particular are fond of your perspective. Probably because they are more open to reflecting. ❤️

We can reassure ourselves that perhaps in the future when all of this passes. Things might change for the better. And be thankful for the good things that conflict has brought. It has been nice getting to know Peter, Lucidity and Tee more. It is nice to see you here again Yana. ❤️

Hi Anonymous

I’m sorry to hear about all of the trauma you experienced in childhood. ❤️

I’m glad that your parents came around and got past the cultural pressure. Girls are as good as boys. But you shouldn’t have had to do all of these things to feel equal. I think women are pretty amazing in their own way. Perhaps it might be worth exploring your womanhood?

You might have built this life to feel accepted by your family. But it is still yours. It is a question of getting to know your own heart, what do you want now? Do you have any answers?

I can hear how much you love your family. You don’t necessarily have to be a support. It is okay to just be there and enjoy spending time with them.

I can understand enjoying feeling needed. I do as well. Perhaps there is another way to meet that need?

It sounds like you have achieved some amazing things. Perhaps take some time to relax and enjoy yourself? You deserve being taken care of too! ❤️

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Hi Tommy

I know that it hurts to be ignored. It is definitely not that you are unimportant. She is having some personal issues right now and needs a bit of time. ❤️

You are very important dear friend and I wish that I had more of an opinion about koans. ❤️

I would love to talk more. But I understand if you don’t feel up for it because things are a bit awkward here at the moment.

You are loved and missed more than you know! I wish you well! ❤️

Hi Peter

I miss the edit function too. 😊

I guess for me, working on my fears helps me to be less afraid.

I’ve been really enjoying talking to you and getting to know you some more. I think you’re a really pure soul. ❤️

I would never have known that you struggled with these things because you are an excellent writer! I understand what it is like to have difficulty with some things. Maths and anything to do with symbols are my weakness. Everyone has different strengths. I’m glad that you can see your strengths now.

I think it’s really amazing that you didn’t let having difficulty with something deter you from enjoying it and exploring it. You have really honed your craft! ❤️

Was there a reason that you decided to stick with it?

Yes, I am very aware of the flaws with AI because I’m an IT student. It is a shame because people can be really easily mislead by it. It’s basically designed to try and make the person using it feel comfortable at any cost. It is one of those cases of if it is free you are the product. It is designed to encourage people to use it as much as possible.

I’m glad that it helps you, because it can be a useful tool when used mindfully, which you are. It is a shame that it takes so much effort to encourage the software not to actively mislead people. It’s a really big problem. I know people who are tech savvy who have been mislead by it. It’s very much on the user to call it out on its mistakes and it takes repeatedly challenging it.

Particularly when analyzing conflict it is very deceptive. I have had to teach people how to remove bias from their inputs. It is really unfortunate because people can use it with good intentions, trying to learn and grow, while it gaslights them. It’s a real shame. Some states in the US are even banning them from being used as a therapeutic tool for this exact reason.

Hi Everyone

Personally, I feel like conflict is a large reason why active members leave. At least four people I enjoyed speaking with left because of difficulties with conflict. I also left for a while because of issues with conflict.

My understanding is that in the past moderators weren’t necessarily aware of issues because they rely on members actively reporting issues via email. Because the community is so sensitive. I do believe that managing conflicts in a healthy way is crucial to building a stronger community.

This is my goal and I have been doing my best to manage these things in a way that aligns with my values, being respectful of boundaries and trying not to cause undue stress, as some members don’t like to receive feedback of any kind.

I assume you’re talking about the misunderstanding on Laven’s thread? I wouldn’t worry about contributing Lucidity. Your voice is welcome! 😊 That was a very specific and rare issue. Mistakes happen, it isn’t a problem. I think Thomas handled the situation with grace and has been doing an excellent job contributing. ❤️

I think the difficulty Peter, is that not everyone might not be willing or able to commit to such an idea. ❤️

What am I? A journey.
I am changing, trapped in time, a scared child clinging to anything.

A naive teenager, brimming with confidence,
hope and dreams. A life unlived.
Broken by life—picking up the pieces, glass shards in hand, carefully re-arranging them.
Slow progress, inch by inch—overcoming fear.

Who are we without the ones we love?
Trusting. Loving. Caring. A family.
I want to make them proud.

Why is this happening?
Why am I all alone? So scared and alone again. All grown up.
What was once a trickle, now rushing water erodes everything we knew.

What is left now? Everything comes and goes.
It is all part of the journey.
Look at it distastefully and it is distasteful.

Fear, my constant companion.
Anger, too afraid to even look.
Time to put them down. Gently now.
They did a good job. Excellent motivation.

What do you care about? What do you want?
How much are you willing to sacrifice?
We do all of these things without even considering the consequences.
How did that happen?

Time to create a new life: what would you like it to be?