Hi Yana

Count me in! ❤️

Your idea reminded me of the song Bon Appétit, Your Majesty Getting to know you, sung by Julie Andrews. 🎶

I have been watching an anime called Sakamoto Days recently. It is about an ex-hitman who builds a life with family and friends.

Also, the new season of Wednesday was pretty good.

My guilty pleasure show at the moment is Bon Appetit, Your Majesty. It’s a Korean drama. There is a 3 michelin star chef who travels back in time and cooks for the king introducing him to modern dishes. ❤️

Looking forward to getting to know everyone! ❤️

My understanding was by reflecting the nature of the situation. ❤️

Hi Everyone

I had this friend who has C-PTSD. He constantly fought with everyone. He would gossip about the fights to his friends and it created a culture of fear to criticise him. Fearing criticism he could never learn by reflecting on how he created his own situation. ❤️

People would eventually get fed up and end up losing their temper with him, by holding in their pain and he would cast them aside for being mean to him, gossip and blog about his fights with them too, ignoring the pain he had caused others. Focusing only on his own pain. ❤️

Hi Tee

I’m sorry, I didn’t give you a proper reply before because I was hoping that the conversation would be more constructive for you after an apology. I’m sorry that things are still challenging. ❤️

I’m feeling better after taking a break from the conflict. I’m happy to continue supporting you on this thread. ❤️

I understand that Anita has expressed a desire for me to stop doing that for her.

I can understand the your need to be heard and acknowledged first before a compromise.

I guess, I just think of things in a different way. Personally, I don’t need a common understanding to acknowledge pain initially. My primary focus is on being treated with respect first and foremost. I would rather be unheard, than to be treat disrespectfully. I feel like being treat in a respectful way naturally precedes a willingness to listen.

You weren’t trying to be hurtful were you? The purpose was to protect yourself from the similar things happening in the future and preventing harm to yourself.

I can understand that you don’t see things in the same way though. It is okay. I think we just have different perspectives.

Ah well, I can clarify what I meant by Anita might be feeling like she isn’t heard. I meant that she might not be feeling heard in the most recent argument.

Your perspective is that you apologised initially in the initial conflict and tried to meet her needs at then and that she hadn’t tried to apologise to you yet. It was her turn to do that next. Essentially? That is fair.

You wanted things to be fair and not feel like you are begging or putting in an undue amount of emotional labour. I can understand that, it isn’t a pleasant feeling begging to be heard.

You do deserve to be heard and not blamed. ❤️

What was tough for you about the conflict?

I can share my perspective about respect – showing due regard for someone’s feelings, wishes or rights.

Do you feel like you were respected in the argument?

I can understand that, it is honestly very hard in a conflict like this to stay open. Yes, I think so. But it is not your fault. It is a difficult situation to be in. You are a good person being open to reflection. ❤️

I feel like people can change their minds during conflicts, perhaps I’m naive and overly optimistic. ❤️

I love that song! 🎶 ❤️