About Lori Deschene
Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha. She started the site after struggling with depression, bulimia, c-PTSD, and toxic shame so she could recycle her former pain into something useful and inspire others to do the same. You can find her books, including Tiny Buddha’s Gratitude Journal and Tiny Buddha’s Worry Journal, here and learn more about her eCourse, Recreate Your Life Story, if you’re ready to transform your life and become the person you want to be.
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Though I run this site, it is not mine. It's ours. It's not about me. It's about us. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. 
We all get so involved in our lives that we can’t look past our biases. Analysing ourselves objectively is difficult because of our beliefs. That’s why we need to be honest with others. You need to mix a healthy dose of empathy and try not to hurt the person. What has really helped me is the concept of ‘assumed benevolence’ by Help Scout.
Whenever I am talking with friends, I am blunt, but I have already told them that it’s understood it’s coming from a good place. We’re not going to waste time, just being ‘nice’ to each other and indulging in superfluous conversations. I have found we directly spend time in the crux of the agenda – not waste time in the edges.