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Instead of Getting Defensive…

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Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha. She started the site after struggling with depression, bulimia, c-PTSD, and toxic shame so she could recycle her former pain into something useful and inspire others to do the same. You can find her books, including Tiny Buddha’s Gratitude Journal and Tiny Buddha’s Worry Journal, here and learn more about her eCourse, Recreate Your Life Story, if you’re ready to transform your life and become the person you want to be.

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Jay
Jay

what if you are truly not in the space to consider them. is it necessary to still say ” i will consider them”. Not an excuse to get defensive but i also think it is OK to say “Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Unfortunately i tend to disagree. If you have the space to discuss, i would like to share why i disagree”.

Lori Deschene
Reply to  Jay

I don’t think it’s ever really necessary to say this. I personally liked this idea because it allows us to receive someone else’s opinion without feeling a need to get into a debate. But if you flat out disagree and feel more comfortable initiating a conversation about why, then this sounds like a great way to do it!