Your Most Important To-Do List

β€œWhat you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.” ~Pericles

Every day we are swamped by tasks. Catch up on work. Buy groceries. Reply to those emails. Do the housework. Hand in that project. Pick up the dry-cleaning. Make that appointment. Go to the gym.

The constant connection to social media, as amazing and valuable as it can be, adds even more tiny tasks to our never-ending to-do-lists. Upload. Download. Tweet. Reply. Blog. Comment. Follow. Pin. Update. Check-in. Watch. Like. Read. Send.

My to-do’s are pinned up on my wall, stuck on my laptop, written on my iPhone, and floating around in my mind almost constantly.

With all these never-ending tasks consuming me all day, it’s easy to become stressed, irritable, and negative, and to forget what is most important: love, happiness, kindness, laughter, and gratitude.

To help me stay grounded during my day, I created my most important to-do list. Seeing this everyday reminds me of what really matters, and helps me to maintain positivity, clarity, and peace amongst the craziness.

Your Most Important To-Do List:

1. Smile at yourself.

β€œSometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh

How many times do you see your reflection in a day? And how many times do you see yourself actually looking happy?

Smiling at yourself can make you feel just as good as when someone else smiles at you. You smile at your friends, your family, colleagues, peers, even strangers, so why not show that same love to yourself?

Seeing your own smiling face in the bathroom mirror can help you strengthen your self-love, and it’s an awesome way to start your day!

2. Smile at others.

β€œEvery time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.” ~Mother Teresa

There’s a pretty good chance that anyone you smile at will smile right back at you. (And if they don’t, keep smiling anyway!)

Whether you smile at a loved one or smile at a stranger, it’s a great happiness booster for all involved. It will leave you feeling so good about yourself that you won’t be able to wipe the smile off of your beautiful face!

3. Commit an act of kindness.

β€œKindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” ~Lao Tzu

Give up your seat on the bus. Pay for the order of the person behind you in line at Starbucks. Buy someone flowers. Give compliments. Leave a love note on a bathroom mirror or on a seat on a train or in a clothing store fitting room.

Today, with the awesomeness of social media, you can perform a kind act for a stranger without even leaving the house! A great example of this is the DropALoveBomb crew, who write supportive comments every week on the blogs of people going through a tough time.

Whatever you do, being kind to others is a win-win situation, and one kind act can often lead to anotherβ€”and another, and anotherβ€”creating a ripple effect of kindness and love.

4. Laugh.

β€œA smile starts on the lips, a grin spreads to the eyes, a chuckle comes from the belly; but a good laugh bursts forth from the soul, overflows, and bubbles all around.” ~Carolyn Birmingham

Everyone loves to laugh, and with all the scientific research showing just how much we benefit from it, there’s no reason not to enjoy a good giggle everyday.

Watch your favourite funny movie or sitcom, hang out with that friend who always puts you in hysterics, or search for β€œlaughing baby” or β€œsneezing panda” on YouTube, and let the soulful laughs roll!

5. Say thank you.

β€œGratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.” ~Melody Beattie

Taking time every day to think of, or write down, everything you are grateful for is an amazing way to boost your happiness and see the world in a more positive light.

Gratitude shared is even better, so say thank you to someone who helped you out, buy a thank you card, or tweet it using the Gratitude Stream app.

Thank whatever higher power your heart connects with, for all the blessings in your life today, and for all the blessings that are on their way.

At the end of your day, whether you have completed all your tasks or not, if you have checked everything off this to-do list, you have succeeded.

Photo by D. Sharon Pruitt

Comments

25 responses to “Your Most Important To-Do List”

  1. Ankush Avatar
    Ankush

    i will try thisΒ 

  2. Anne-Sophie Reinhardt Avatar
    Anne-Sophie Reinhardt

    Well, this was a lovely way to start my day. I will definitely keep this to-do list in mind. In the midst of all of our obligations, we often forget about what’s really important. Thanks for the reminder, Jen. Β 

  3. Bella Avatar
    Bella

    Thank you Jen. Beautiful words of wisdom. I will make this tomorrows to do list xx

  4. Bettina Avatar

    These five to-dos are so important. I definitely keep this in mind. Hence I choose to do my other list late into the night so I can spend my time with my family during the day, the most important part.

  5. PJ Swanwick Avatar

    Jen, this is such wonderful advice! Your list got me excited about sharing a smile, paying a compliment, expressing my gratitude RIGHT NOW — not “yes, I should really remember to do this,” but to really internalize these principles and practice them today, tonight, tomorrow, every day. Thank you!

  6. Andre Wiley Avatar

    LOVE this one!!! My love and I are practicing this everyday now and this, of course, was just handed to us by the universe as a reminder for our busy day today! THANK YOU!

  7. Likethewave Avatar
    Likethewave

    Thanks for linking the Gratitude stream app, I’m excited about that! Gratitude is such a powerful practice.

  8. Rob Avatar
    Rob

    Thank you πŸ™‚

  9. Cindy@YogaInMyPocket Avatar

    Great reminder on what’s really important – having an impact on yourself and others.Β  Thank youΒ 

  10. Vishnu Avatar
    Vishnu

    I like this post – thinking ofΒ  physically writing out this to do list. We do so with so many other tasks in our life that are important to getting something done – why not these items as well?

  11. Norbert Evenich Avatar

    This is a beautiful post! Thank you! I think I will create custom wallpaper for my phone with these words on it: smile, be kind, laugh, say thank you. πŸ™‚

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  13. Lippe2 Avatar
    Lippe2

    Yay – so needed this today!Β  Thank you πŸ™‚

  14. Fran Avatar

    Spot on Jen! It’s so easy to miss what’s MOST important in life, amongst the little details of our days. Thanks for the reminder, I’m writing this out on a nice big pink sticky note and sticking it over the clock on my computer, so whenever I try and see the time, I get reminded πŸ˜€ xo

  15. Guest Avatar
    Guest

    Oh that’s so awesome! The Universe really does provide, doesn’t it? πŸ˜€

  16. Guest Avatar
    Guest

    Great idea, Fran! I’m thinking about making an art print of it so I can hang it on my wall in my office, I need to see it as much as possible! Thanks for your lovely comment πŸ˜€ xo

  17. Guest Avatar
    Guest

    That’s an awesome idea, Norbert! Tweet it to me, I’d love to see it! πŸ˜€

  18. Guest Avatar
    Guest

    Yay! So happy you connected with this post so much! Thank you for sharing your thoughts, and for reading mine! πŸ˜€

  19. Brenda Avatar
    Brenda

    Sometimes I think we’re twins Jen.

  20. Lakeaustinrental Avatar
    Lakeaustinrental

    Loved this positive thinking
    Xo MJ

  21. George Pirintzi Avatar

    Great reminder …’Love, Play, Smile, Believe, Wish, Hope, Dream’. Everything else is a means to an end.

  22. Caique Avatar
    Caique

    Everyday we’re consumed by some many ‘important’ things to do and what’s really important to keep our balance is left for later. Truth is this opportunity to say thanks or to smile will never come, because we are fully booked with daily errands. Great collaboration! There’s a new ‘to do’ list on my BlackBerry now.

  23. rajendra kumari Avatar
    rajendra kumari

    how can i smile when i am angry

  24. Sathyanand S Avatar
    Sathyanand S

    Spot on πŸ™‚

    In the everyday whirlwind of everyday activity, we simply miss out living out life.

    To-do listing and organizing are only tools and are a means to an end. They are not end in itself.

    Thanks for the reminder.

    ~ Sathya

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