“It is better to take many small steps in the right direction than to make a great leap forward only to stumble backward.” ~Proverb
You wouldn’t believe it now, but in my college days I did my fair share of crash diets.
The craziest was the one where I tried (and failed) to eat nothing but oranges for nine days. My roommate’s ex’s dad was a veterinarian, and after the good doctor lost fifteen pounds on the same high vitamin C, high fiber, non-sense diet, I decided to try it for myself.
It was based on a specific number of daily oranges to keep your metabolism and energy levels up. Orange juice was off limits, but I could season the slices with my favorite chili powder to mix it up a bit.
I was off to a good start and enjoying the attention from friends who couldn’t hide their disbelief or their laughter.
My resolve crumbled after sundown on the third day. No longer hungry, I had eight oranges to plow through before calling it a night. Instead, I ran to the cafeteria for chicken salad, and that was the end of the infamous orange diet.
Crash dieting on oranges did nothing for my waistline, but it satisfied a deeper need. It was never about my weight or the way I looked. Crash dieting was fun; it broke the routine and more importantly, it was a distraction.
My dad had just been diagnosed with an aggressive type of brain cancer, and these food fixations kept my thoughts on something that I could control. Instead of worrying about survival rates, I obsessed over the jeans I couldn’t fit into anymore, or how many hours I had to put in at the gym.
For years my weight yo-yoed, stabilizing only after Dad passed away. At that point I was no longer binge eating to silence my anxiety, or dieting to lose a few pounds before putting them on again. It took two years for the weight to come off but it never returned.
My relationship with food is still a work in progress, very much linked to my mental and emotional state of mind. Based on these experiences, I have opted for a more balanced approach to health and well-being.
It’s about being patient, mindful of our impulses, and compassionate in our self-talk. The word “diet” has no place in my vocabulary. Rather, I take the middle road, eating almost anything in moderation. A few thoughts to consider include:
1. Is it hunger you’re feeding, or something else?
Dieting is useless unless we deal with the emotional and psychological issues that lie beneath. Anxiety over my dad’s illness fuelled my crash diets and binge eating. Think about the need that is being filled.
Are you bored, stressed, or just looking for love in a chocolate bar? Is there a healthier way to satisfy that need? Knowing yourself is the first step; this is where a healthy dose of introspection will come in handy.
There is plenty of reading material on emotional eating. My favorite so far is Doreen Virtue’s book, Constant Craving.
2. Focus on maintenance instead of weight loss.
The weight came off when I began eating as if I were already at my goal weight. That slice of chocolate cake was no longer the enemy. I could treat myself in moderation, so long as I listened to my body and stopped when I was full.
This approach enabled me to make peace with my appetite. It also made exercise fun again, because I went to the gym when I wanted to, no guilt trips included.
Pushing ourselves at the gym may be a popular option, but finding an activity that we genuinely enjoy makes staying fit so much easier. Whether it’s kickboxing classes, jogging, or ballroom dancing, make sure you have fun and get those sessions in regularly!
3. Educate, love, and accept yourself fully.
Buddhist philosophy teaches that ignorance, attachment, and aversion are the three downfalls of human nature. All too often we fall victim to the illusions of the mind, especially where loving and accepting our physical body is concerned.
Taken to the extreme, wanting to lose weight because we dislike our current size can involve both attachment to an unattainable ideal and hatred of what is. It’s time we release the need to be perfect, love and accept ourselves for who we are, and make informed food and lifestyle choices.
4. Follow the middle road.
In my previous life as a crash dieter, my food choices were anything but moderate. Rich and creamy desserts may not have been my friends, but that didn’t keep me away. Trying to avoid that chocolate cake only made it so much harder.
Instead of avoiding certain foods because of their perceived sugar, fat, or carb contents, let’s think about the big picture. No single food choice is responsible for our health and well-being, rather it’s the combination of foods we eat, and how they are processed, that makes a difference over time.
This is where we can use knowledge and patience to our advantage, consulting with a qualified nutritionist to develop a healthy and satisfying nutrition plan that can last much longer than a simple New Year’s Resolution or a crash diet.
5. There’s no time like the present!
Start today! Don’t put your new life off to Monday, January 1st, or any other mental milestone. And remember that you are not sacrificing anything. Think of this approach as spicing up your meals with a dash of conscious moderation.
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About Regina Chouza
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Hi Regina
Thank you for sharing your story and your great insights.
I never had any major eating issues per se, but like many people, I didn’t exactly eat the healthiest diet back in the day One of the things that helped me most with adopting better health habits is meditation. When we can gain greater control of our mind, observe our feelings from a more objective space,etc…we get more comfortable with being uncomfortable. That can be very effective in curbing emotional eating, or doing other things that may provide some relief in the moment, but in the end, are not great for us, and trigger self-criticism, guilt and other emotions that certainly don’t contribute to lasting wellness, mental and physical.
Great post!
Cheers Regina. Great list. I especially like number two. The fitness industry is mostly geared towards goals that are very end-game; mostly fat loss, because that’s the health fix most people could really use. For the few that are actually able to make a plan, stick to it, and get results… what they find is there is always a day after all the celebration. Once we ring that bell of success, then what? You’re smart to focus on pressuring the process and not the product. Body improvements are fringe benefits, as are improvements to our brain, and our emotional stability. Too bad we can’t photoshop our emotions… er, maybe not. Thanks!
Hi Kelli! Thank you so much for the comment. You’re right, meditation plays a huge role in this to. We can use it to ground our energy and be less impulsive, but also to reflect on our patterns and break free as you suggest. What type of meditation has worked best for you?
Thanks again for your kind words, they mean a lot. Reiki hugs, Regina
Thank you for sharing! This couldn’t have come at a more perfect time if I timed it! I am currently in the stage of trying out a “crash diet” and like you, it started of great but now I’m noticing that I’m starting to forget about it. And although we’ve all heard this list before it’s always refreshing to me to hear it again and in a different light. It gives me hope that I can accomplish my goals!
Hi Lakiyah, Thank you for the feedback and I’m glad you found the post at the right time. I find that if you love & accept ourselves, the excess weight melts off =) =) =)
Reiki Hugs,
Regina
Thank you for the feedback Adam! =)
You’re right, I do focus on the process and how to enjoy it, rather than the destination. Makes it easier to reach your goal (or to come close, etc)
Reiki hugs,
Regina
Thank you for sharing your story and your insights.
Here’s the thing. I’m NOT a huge fan of crash diets, since it doesn’t work. You can lose the weight, and unfortunately, it’s temporary. Once you start eating regular foods again, the weight gain can come back. I want to be able to enjoy the foods that I do eat, but in moderation. Although I never tried crash diets before, it doesn’t sound too pleasant.
I’ll admit that I had used food for comfort, to where I started overeating. The issue was brought to light when my mom noticed that I wouldn’t stop eating. She was concerned about the weight gain, since high blood pressure and diabetes run in the family. I had to start changing my eating habits, which was a HUGE challenge to do. Also, I started walking back and fourth in my old neighborhood for thirty minutes, and the weight melted off. Not only did I feel good about myself, I was looking good!!
My weight has fluctuated throughout the years. I did lose twenty five pounds recently, and have been keeping the weight off for one year.