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How to Live a Rich Life Without Lots of Money

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“Ordinary riches can be stolen; real riches cannot. In your soul are infinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you.” ~Oscar Wilde

Does the race for riches leave you unfulfilled?

Does the thought of constantly chasing ever more cash leave you stressed, depressed even?

Does the whole idea of measuring your personal worth in terms of your personal wealth leave you deeply dissatisfied?

It did for me.

Poor in possessions and somewhat fiscally challenged, I never fit in with my richer friends.

And no matter how much I told myself that money didn’t buy happiness, I still felt worthless because I was worth less … financially.

So in my thirties, I finally caved in and chased the money dream.

Five exhausting, stress-filled years of ruthlessly pursuing more money.

But when I got there, it meant nothing to me. It didn’t make me happy. It made me miserable.

In those five years, even to the small extent I succeeded, the so-called riches that money can buy actually left me poorer in happiness, health, and relationships. My heart and head were as full as my work schedule, but not with the people and things that really mattered.

I discovered that rocking a 24-carat rock didn’t rock my world. And bling definitely didn’t make me swing.

So with no idea where to go from there, I found an empty journal and started a record of the True Riches In My Life. For each year of my adult life, I jotted down every experience, achievement, adventure, friendship won or lost, and every decision I could remember making.

What an epiphany!

I realized my life had been full of riches long before I started chasing financial wealth and material gain. I realized most of the truest riches in my life actually came when I didn’t have all that much money.

Sure, when money’s really tight, it’s not so easy to focus on much beyond finding enough for the essentials. When I was lost in the financial doldrums, struggling to pay my rent, and praying there’d be reduced food in the supermarket, it took up a lot of my mental energy. But I wish I’d known then that I would have felt so much better about myself, about my situation, if I’d recognized the riches I did have.

Whether I’d had enough money or not, I’d missed seeing all those infinitely precious things because I’d been looking for the wrong kind of riches. I’d been measuring my inner wealth by my external wealth.

I realized in that epiphany that no matter how much a part of me may have wanted it, I would never be materialistic. It just isn’t in my makeup; I am much more spiritual than material.

Just like you.

And even though you can have lots of money and still be spiritual, spiritual people measure true wealth in different terms.

So forget the race for riches, start your own True Riches In My Life journal, and discover your own inner wealth.

14 Infinitely Precious Things For A Rich Life

1. Authenticity

Forever staying true to yourself and being at peace with who you are is the greatest richness in life.

Each morning, tell your reflection that you are going to do yourself the greatest service of being you. This act alone makes me feel happier, regardless of my personal financial situation or lack of ‘status.’

Start your Riches In My Life journal with a declaration of the authentic, spiritually rich person you truly are.

2. Acceptance

Overcome your natural desire to control the uncontrollable in life, and replace struggle with acceptance and peace.

Every time you catch yourself wishing you could change the unchangeable, write it down in your journal, and say, “It’s okay. I accept this just as it is.”

3. Curiosity

Childish wonder is still within you. Forever questioning and experimenting is the sign of a rich mind. My most enjoyable days are always those marked by a discovery, where I’ve learned something new, however tiny, that I can’t wait to share.

Reignite your spark and excitement for life by reading different types of books, learning about different cultures, and delving deeper into anything of interest. Jot down these new discoveries in your True Riches journal—you’ll be amazed!

4. Creativity

Creating something from nothing is a courageous act that brings a valuable accomplishment amid the practicalities of everyday life.

Let your self-expression rule in your journal—start that book, paint that picture, or maybe just sketch out an idea or inventive solution.

5. Forgiveness

Letting go of anger or hurt rewards one with peace of mind—a priceless freedom. The act of forgiveness is a true testament to your inner strength.

Write in your journal and say, “I forgive you, [name].” Don’t worry if you don’t feel forgiveness the first time; it will come in due time.

6. Gentleness

Confucius listed gentleness as one of the greatest virtues, and it is a quality you can see in spiritual people from Buddha to Gandhi. The ability to be strong without being abrupt or harsh is a rare and valuable quality.

Next time the kids or a colleague act up, smile, speak softly, and note in your journal how you stood firm but gentle.

7. Patience

Being patient isn’t easy in this age of instant gratification. However, with patience, you can achieve things over time that may seem impossible. Journaling my ideas and projects has taken me from being “Missy, I need it right now or not at all,” to truly feeling the joy that more substantial, longer-term projects bring.

Next time you start beating yourself up over a missed goal, write a realistic time scale in your journal, and remember to be as patient with yourself as you are with others.

8. Gratitude

It takes dedication to notice what you have and be thankful for it. But acknowledging all the good things in each day will make you rich in happiness.

Challenge yourself to note one thing each day you might have taken for granted, and add it to your journal to build a treasury of blessings.

9. Generosity

Giving when you believe you don’t have enough yourself is true generosity of heart. And doing so leads to the realization that you always have enough to share.

Give someone your undivided attention for half an hour when you think you have no time. In this hectic world, your full attention is one of the most generous things you can give. Write these acts of generosity in your journal.

10. Kindness

Being kind brings its own rich rewards—inner peace, happiness, and the knowledge that you are making a real difference in the world, one people will remember.

Next time you feel unhappy or are beating yourself up, do one small act of kindness for someone, then do one for yourself. Note these in your journal.

11. Compassion

To understand and feel another’s pain is a truly selfless act. It allows you to appreciate the areas of ease and plenty in your own life.

In your journal, note all your compassionate thoughts and actions. I find these to be the most powerful of my journal entries; they wrap a security blanket of all that I’m blessed with round me each time I re-read them.

12. Love

Making that emotional connection with others, whether it’s your partner, family, or friend, brings an abundance into your life that money can never hope to match.

Each day, tell someone you love them, and write in your journal every time those wonderful words are said to you.

13. Vulnerability

Letting down your defenses and showing your weaknesses allows others to see the full picture, not just a silhouette. Being vulnerable builds trust in relationships. This is my Achilles heel, but by consciously letting others in, initially unremarkable relationships have blossomed into great friendships.

In your journal, record all your positive experiences of being vulnerable to help you build this rewarding habit.

14. Contentment

Realizing you already have abundance in your life brings serenity and contentment. Achieving this in a materialistic world takes a special skill.

In your journal, read through all the infinitely precious things other than money that you are wealthy in. Acknowledge all the wealth you already have because, as the proverb says, “enough is a feast.

Find Your Real Riches

Imagine being unconcerned about the race for riches.

Imagine no longer stressing over constantly chasing ever more cash.

Imagine measuring your personal wealth in terms of your personal worth, and feeling true contentment with the result.

Start that True Riches In My Life journal.

Embrace the genuinely spiritual person you are, and be at peace for the incredible riches you bring to the world.

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About Laura Tong

Laura Tong is a regular contributor on The Huffington Post and other top blogs. Grab her free cheat sheet: 5 Guilt Free Ways To Say No Without Offending Anyone (Even If You Hate Conflict). Laura also hosts the Re-write The Rules In Your Life interview series where she shares awesome happiness and positivity tips from experts around the world. Click here to listen free to the latest episodes.

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Peace Within

Thank you for sharing and reminding me. I want to have enough money in my life to get by, but I don’t want it to ruin my spirit. We can’t take it with us when we leave this world. We should make our time here the best we can. We don’t know when it is our last day, we have to live it up. 🙂

Quinn Eurich

Sometimes you have to go through what you think you want, and what everyone is telling you to do, to figure out what’s really important to you.

But then, you have to be brave enough to take a stand and put your happiness first.

Your list will definitely show people how much richness their lives can acquire when they do just that!

Thanks for sharing!

Ann Davis

Good points!
Money-cannot buy happiness-True. It’s hard though to be happy when I don’t know where my next meal comes from, right? It’s the balance between knowing money cannot buy happiness and money will make life easier- like, if I have money I can “buy” happiness by helping those in need or vacationing.

Laura J Tong

Thank you for sharing your thoughts Peace Within. You make a great point that the pursuit of riches can ruin our spirit, if we take it too far, or fail to truly see what is enough. Enjoy all your true riches.

Laura J Tong

Thanks for adding another great point Quinn, that it can take some bravery to stand by what’s important to you. Chasing the ‘money dream’ is the norm that many of us have been exposed to, I still remember the stress and feeling like a fraud for all the years I tried it. I’ve since found that whilst I’m comfortable with my choice of lifestyle, others don’t always ‘get it’ – to help them out I sometime use a label they can understand (and is actually true too!) such as minimalist or conservationist – I find it makes for a much easier conversation where we can appreciate each others’ life choices. Enjoy your riches Quinn, your positivity is definitely one that spills over into ours 🙂

Laura J Tong

Thanks for joining this discussion with a really important point Ann – absolutely agree, not having enough money for the basics (food, shelter, comfort) that’s no fun at all – I can vividly remember those days too. And finding that balance takes a bit of fathoming sometimes – we’ve asked ourselves many times ‘How much is enough? The definitive answer for us is that our basic needs are met and we have enough time for the things that are important to us: being together, friends, walks, creative projects – if the pursuit of more money encroaches on those then it falls into the ‘too much’ bracket! Enjoy your happiness, such a richness of life 🙂

Dicktator

Money can’t buy happiness but you can rent it!

WolfAsteria

Agreed that money can’t buy happiness. However, you need money for the necessary essential to live in this money-based society or else we will be suffering. Maybe practicing minimalism helps too?

Laura J Tong

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this WolfAsteria. I absolutely agree that we do need money, I certainly haven’t found a way to do without it, but I have managed to find a happy balance of how much I need to truly enjoy life and it’s so much less than I thought whilst caught in the world of chasing money. As I said to Quinn below, we do live a minimalist lifestyle because it really suits us and it’s another great way to be happy – so much less to buy, clean, maintain, desire – the list goes on. Enjoy your riches WolfAsteria.

Laura J Tong

Great thought Dicktator – but you know we’d never give that happiness up at the end of the rental period! Enjoy your riches 🙂

Courtney

I couldn’t agree more. Thank you for the lovely reminder of what is truly important in life. My husband and I came to this epiphany a few years ago and decided to retire early and live our own rich authentic lives in an Airstream trailer. We are getting closer to that goal and living a frugal tiny lifestyle is helping us realize how little money actually matters after seeing to basic needs and comforts. I have a lot more of all 14 things listed above now, thanks to this realization 🙂 Thanks again for an insightful read.

Simon

No. 2 acceptance…I have scoliosis of the spine. It’s not ok and I don’t accept it.

Laura J Tong

Thank you so much for joining this discussion Simon. I fully appreciate that something which can have a significant impact on your life is not at all easy to accept. Apologies, I’m not sure from your words if you mean you don’t accept it and are therefore working to continue as far possible as if it wasn’t part of your life, or if you feel that you can’t change it and it is therefore not possible to accept it? If it’s the latter, I only wish that you can find a way for the lack of acceptance not to add to your difficulties by impacting on your peace of mind. With my best wishes and thoughts for positivity to rule your world.

Laura J Tong

Thank you for sharing your wonderful experience Courtney. I’m so delighted for you and your husband that you’ve found your own rich life, that you’ve identified what’s really important to you and that you’ve managed to make it such a large part of your life, albeit that it’s a ‘tiny’ lifestyle 🙂
I’d have to use the same word as you too ‘epiphany’ – gosh, what a difference appreciating our true riches has made to our lives. Enjoy your trailer, your travels and each other 🙂

Maya Khan

Thanks for this important issue. Money is not only the part of happiness.
We have to take care of our body. “High protein bars for workout” protein bars can be our meal replacement.

Mike McClement

Thank you for sharing this Laura and for answering the interesting comments. You are obviously a person with confidence and courage. To accept that money is not everything is one thing but to live your life with this mindset is another. I have the same approach to life as you. However my kids are 18,17 and 15 so for the next few years I am slightly hampered. My wife and I certainly have plans though. Health of course is a major factor and we keep our fingers crossed that this will stay with us. Keeping fit is part of this but luck comes into it too feel. Take care. Mike

Isabelle

You really can be happy and fulfilled even if you do not have a lot of money. As I always tell my husband we might not have a lot of money but we have everything else, we are blessed to have all the things that money cannot buy a great marriage, health,happiness love,family and great friends. In my twenties I was exactly like you Laura always wanting more materialistically and trying to fit the views and expectations of society. It also took me until my thirties and my husband who made me realize how insignificant money and materialistic things are and since I’ve changed my point of view it feels like a weight has been taken off of my shoulders. I learnt to be myself and to do things for me instead of what society expects, I learnt to be grateful for all the things I do have and what I have achieved as a person even if they are not money related there are so many other ways in which you can be successful and feel at peace with yourself.

Laura J Tong

Thank you for sharing your personal journey in appreciating the true riches in your life. I love that your husband has been a part of this too. And you’ve described that feeling so well, the one of the weight of having to chase material items being lifted, ah that feels wonderful. Enjoy your wonderful marriage and all the other true riches you’ve found so far, and those you discover as life progresses. Lovely to connect with you here.

Laura J Tong

Thank you for sharing your kind words and your thoughts on this. I appreciate we are all in different situations and building life around non-financial riches may not be so easy with a maturing family, but it sounds as though you and your wife are instilling as many ideas of the important things in life in your children as you can – they’ll no doubt make their way and come full circle back to where you are right now. 🙂

MattScribes

Laura,
About 2 months ago I finished up reading the Dalai Lama’s autobiography, and this list basically encompasses his teachings. I don’t know if you intended that or not, but it fits and when he suggests something that identifies with your suggestion, you know it’s a brilliant idea.