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From Restlessness to Action: Enjoy Working Toward Your Dream

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“The only thing that will stop you from fulfilling your dreams is you.” ~Tom Bradley

Every day seemed like hours passing. It didn’t matter how much I got accomplished at work or how many nice things I did to help others. I never felt satisfied.

This restlessness seemed to grow as much as the time I spent on my creative writing shrank.

My someday dream of finishing just one book started to seem more like a never-to-be-crossed-off item on a bucket list. And the most frustrating thing was that the more effort I put into trying to write more, the less I had to show for it.

I thought for sure that I’d achieve success by bringing my project management tactics home from the office. I instituted a daily writing quota—twenty minutes in the morning right after finishing my oversized mug of coffee.

I quickly discovered that there was nothing inspiring about dragging myself out of bed earlier for the three weeks this practice lasted.

Next, I switched to evenings and upped the timeframe to 30 minutes. This nighttime block wound up being even less appealing than sorting through junk mail and vacuuming the floor. It was just another to-do on my long list.

So then I tried not formally demanding anything. Who needed structure when it stilted my inner artist? Well, that artist ended up no happier with what replaced it—a new practice of holding myself hostage in my home office on weekend mornings.

Yes, I would sit there not writing and secretly hoping if I sat there long enough I’d suddenly manifest lively prose.

My guilt would glue me in a prime position—facing my computer monitor. Eventually, I resorted to Internet distractions to avoid the quotes looming overhead: “Writers write.” and “You can have your book or you can have your excuses. You can’t have both.”

These inspiring quotes transformed from motivation into an excuse to quit.

I convinced myself that writers simply love to write and my love-hate relationship was very symbolic. For a real writer, the process wouldn’t be so painful, challenging, and laden with doubt.

I clung to this proof, trying to forget and carry on with other interests—yoga workshops, cooking classes, and grueling workouts. But the restlessness never ceased.

On the advice of my new life coach, I tried a new approach: write in the middle of life. Ditch trying to cram in writing while half-asleep or after thoroughly exhausted from a long workday. Instead, I would write during my formerly non-existent lunch break.

I squelched the chorus of “but” excuses and tried to be open to the one strategy I never tried. I never thought to because I usually spent a few minutes chowing down my food before jumping back into work.

And beyond time logistics, how could I possibly be inspired halfway through another busy day? How would I focus on writing when I had an afternoon’s worth of items waiting for my attention?

In spite of my skepticism, I bought myself a new Zen-themed journal. I armed myself with the inky blue and black pens I loved. And for 20 minutes I shut out the world beyond the lined pages in front of me.

On the very first day, I was amazed that this strategy was a success. Without any set intentions, I wound up writing several pages, jotting down an exciting assortment of new ideas and, most of all, discovering a renewed sense of enthusiasm for my writing practice.

And then it finally clicked. Lunchtime was safe from being smoldered by expectations. I didn’t have time to agonize over what I should accomplish.

Now, my creative writing has turned into a welcome mid-day break, at least most days. It’s a chance to slow the tempo and focus on only one thing. Most importantly, my lunchtime progress lifts the burden to produce at other times.

Free from my self-created pressure, I actually end up writing during the same times I used to fail—early in the morning and later in the evening. I write every day, sometimes several times a day, because I love it.

I pick up my journal and feel excited by the possibilities rather than petrified of the empty lined pages.

And it’s so wonderful because my writing has become a source of joy. I’ve finally tossed aside the expectations that stifled my creativity and let the words flow.

I feel more energized than ever because I’ve finally conquered that once nagging restlessness.

In this journey, I’ve learned a few key things about turning dreams about someday into actions today:

1. Toss aside expectations.

There’s a difference between meeting a fixed deadline and pouring your heart into your creative passion. Don’t crush your creativity by expecting too much and demanding constant progress.

Give yourself time and explore without forcing a specific end result. You don’t have to limit yourself to one project, one specific ending, one hero, one artistic medium, etc.

2. Don’t make your creative endeavors a chore.

Dedicate time to what you love but if it becomes a drag, rethink your approach. Be realistic. For example, setting aside two hours every week may be technically possible but it may not practical in terms of helping inspire progress. Do what you can with the energy, time, and resources you have.

3. Make the most of unused minutes.

Like the lunch break I used to waste, look for the times in the middle of life are great opportunities to explore creativity. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a large chunk of time—even a few minutes here and there add up to progress.

For example, think of all the moments spent waiting—for an appointment, to pick someone up from school or practice, or to meet a friend who is running late. These are all unexpected, fantastic times to tap into creativity and jot down ideas.

4. Use stillness to fuel creativity.

With so much to do, it’s easy to default to a frantic go, go, go tempo, which makes it hard to observe, hard to dream, and hard to create.

Take a few minutes each day to recharge. Maybe this is the moments of pursuing your passion like my mid-day writing sessions are for me. Or maybe this means practicing a few yoga poses, playfully blending paint in a journal, walking a little slower, taking a more scenic route home or enjoying a hot bath.

It doesn’t matter what nourishes your spirit as long as you can slow down even briefly.

5. Love and honor the process.

Enjoy the unexpected discoveries. Celebrate even the smallest of progress. It’s a journey and just opening up the channel to pursue your passion is a success in itself.

Photo by charamelody

About Kristin Harnedy

Kristin Harnedy is a writer and adventurer who seeks inspiration and excitement in the most ordinary and extraordinary days. From wandering the desert in Peru to bringing her sense of humor to the grocery store, she loves exploring life and writing about her experiences. She shares her stories on Bust-a-Rut.com.

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Bernadette L Ignacio

Thank you for sharing your experience Kristin. I can very much relate, as there is a book just bubbling within, and all the excuses and Work Avoidance Tasks, or, as I once learned in college these activities to be W.A.T.S, are my way of feeing productive without actually achieving anything with my book completion goals.

In any case, I really appreciate your insight and tips to rise above restlessness and enjoy the process of realizing a dream.

Bernadette*

iamskeletonmeat

This is so good, and mirrors my own experience. Your art is the soundtrack of your life; fold it into the routine of your daily existence. Chop wood, carry water, then ground your experience in composition. It’s not just the artists life; it’s the human life.

Jade

Very timely advice! I also have a dream of writing a novel
but I find that has stalled in the last couple years. The passion and
inspiration that was previously there is gone. The thought of sitting at the
computer was simply unappealing. I had a breakthrough a few months ago when I
realized that part of the problem was I had shifted away from just writing for
my own personal satisfaction to writing with the intention of getting
published. Now I’m writing more, but not necessarily my novel, just other
writings, and I’ve sort of been guilting myself over it. I need to remember
that creativity and passion will come in different forms.

christina

ahhh this article was so relaxing to read. I let a lot of stress go as I enjoyed and related to your account. I used to write to write but, like most (I think) I let fame and fortune get in the way of being an authentic artist. I try to think of artists who produced beautiful work and passed on before even being published or known and only to be discovered later.

I think in this fast paced society with all the social media sites and get rich quick schemes promoting a mini celebrity syndrome, we all feel entitled to the 15 minutes of fame now. As soon as I let go of wanting to be published or wanting to be known as a groundbreaking writer or artist I am my most creative, most authentic, and peaceful self.

I like how you advise to write in little spurts when you have the time and energy because I have gotten up early or tried writing when I was tired and it was painful haha. Now I carry around a little notebook and jot down things I see and feel as they come and when I have time.

so thanks for such a great article!!

Carrie Hensley

Kristin,
This is such a great message. “Don’t make your creative endeavors a choice” is a particularly good reminder! What a gift to give yourself mid-day as well- to be able to slow down and mindfully connect to your truth in that moment.

Jason Shambo

What a great message about letting your creative self be free 🙂

Kristin Harnedy

What a great metaphor! Thanks for the fantastic comments. I totally agree that art is such an essential and a wonderful amplifier of the beauty of our lives.

Kristin Harnedy

Thank you! It was such an amazing concept to finally learn and most importantly apply.

Kristin Harnedy

It really is such a gift and it seems to always fit in somewhere during my waking hours!

Kristin Harnedy

Thanks so much Christina for this fantastic point. It’s amazing to write purely from the soul.

Kristin Harnedy

I can totally relate. I’ve always wanted to focus on one project but I found the focus to drain my inspiration. And now some days I find myself tackling a scene for one project or scribbling down ideas for another with so much more energy from not focusing on just the end product. Good luck with your novel. Maybe your journey won’t be linear but you’ll arrive somewhere you didn’t expect and sooner than you would think.

Kristin Harnedy

Thank you so much for your comments Bernadette! Cheers to enjoying the process and finding the WATs that bring the inspiration and insights that translate into progress on your book. For me, playing with paint in my journal has been super fun and cathartic even if those sessions don’t directly produce words.

Bernadette L Ignacio

Creating that which cannot be expressed with words is just as important, often times more important. I feel the many ways in which our various senses can transmit our pure emotion and energy are a pure blessing. All my best!

B*

Harry @ GoalsOnTrack

Great advice. I find what works wonder is taking small consistent steps on a daily basis to do something for your goal. It can be just 5 minutes of thinking about it in a constructive way. Keep it up and you will be amazed the amount of progress you will have made in a short while.

Angela Lam Turpin

Thanks for rewriting the rules of “write every day” and “set a page count or timer” to allow for more flexibility with life and the muse.

Aashi

Luv this post, was much needed, thanks. 🙂