“Some people think it’s holding on that makes one strong—sometimes it’s letting go.” ~Unknown
Maybe your life doesn’t look like you want it but you’re not sure how to change it or even if you can, so you feel hopeless, frustrated, and even a little bitter.
Or maybe someone hurt you so deeply that you don’t know if you can trust them anymore, so you feel angry, defensive, and indignant.
Every day we can find a million and one reasons to feel discouraged, or incompetent, or vulnerable, or harried—all things that hurt when we hold them inside like a tight fist we refuse to unclench. And yet we do it anyway.
Until we decide to stop.
You can’t always control the way you instinctively feel about things that happen in your life. You can’t pretend you don’t hurt and just smile to make everything go away. But you can choose at any time to feel what you need to feel and then change it into something else.
Take all that energy and put it into the change you want to create.
Use your discontent to take one small step that could make your life more fulfilling.
Decide to stop hurting yourself rehashing the past, and relate to the humanity in the person who wronged you.
The first step toward feeling good is simply deciding not to feel bad. Simply choosing to let go.
About Lori Deschene
Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha. She started the site after struggling with depression, bulimia, c-PTSD, and toxic shame so she could recycle her former pain into something useful and inspire others do the same. She recently created the Breaking Barriers to Self-Care eCourse to help people overcome internal blocks to meeting their needs—so they can feel their best, be their best, and live their best possible life. If you’re ready to start thriving instead of merely surviving, you can learn more and get instant access here.
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