βHappiness is not something you postpone for the future; itβs something you design for the present.β ~Jim Rohn
A few weeks ago I found myself having a bad day. The frustrating thing was that on the outside everything was okay, nothing had explicitly gone wrong, but inside everything was a mess. It was one of those days where youβre in a constant battle with yourself.
At the beginning of the year I saved up enough to be able to quit my job and focus on building my own online/writing career. But on this particular day I felt nothing but doubt.
I couldnβt get my head straight, my creativity was drained, and with everything I attempted I came up against a mental block.
In silent despair, I sank into my office chair and stared blankly across the room. As I gazed ahead, I looked at pictures from my travels stuck on the wall. Each was a reminder of good times Iβve had and things to look forward to in the future.
To the left, Steve Jobsβ biography sat staring at me on the shelf. Itβs tactfully put there, so that on days where I feel like Iβm incapable of producing anything worthwhile, I get a reminder of whatβs possible.
Iβve recently been experimenting with incorporating things in my daily life to add extra inspiration. Things that give extra motivation when days are good and provide a weatherproof layer for the days when things arenβt going so well.
If our routines and everyday life occur by chance, itβs unlikely that they set us up to have the happiest, most meaningful and productive days that weβre capable of. So Iβve started being deliberate in how I sculpt my days and routines. I guess you could call it happiness architecture.
Of course, true lasting happiness takes practice. Itβs a long-term commitment of expressing gratitude, being aware of our negative self-talk, and developing the ability to see the world around us with more optimism.
So, while designing your days isnβt a quick fix for instant happiness, itβs a way to help cultivate a fertile environment for happiness to grow.
Here are some of the things Iβve been toying with:
Physical space
The easiest place to start sculpting a happier life is with your physical space. Design your surroundings so they inspire you. This doesnβt mean you have to move to the Himalayas or to a villa beside the sea, but instead craft your current surroundings so they make you happier.
The reason Disneyland is considered one of the happiest places on Earth isnβt by chance, but because around every corner is a Mickey Mouse, a Disney Princess, or another deliberately crafted inspiring moment. Craft your own daily Disneyland.
This is the reason for my strategically placed biography of Steve Jobs. Itβs the reason I drink coffee out of a mug that reads βFollow Your Dreams.β Itβs the reason for the inspiring quotes and messages all over my walls and on the wallpaper of my computer.
Have daily reminders of your goals dotted around the house. Surround yourself with plants, paintings, colors, and other visual elements that make you happy.
Anything that can help ensure that not a single day goes by without some sort of visual kick-up-the-butt to inspire you to be happier.
Little surprises
You know the feeling when you find money down the back of the couch? Or when you find something that you totally forgot you had? What if you could manufacture your life to have more positive experiences like these?
Iβve been experimenting with this too. Iβve tried setting random calendar notes or reminders for several weeksβ time, each with a short positive note or inspirational message to myself. Both add a nice surprise to the day when you receive them out of the blue.
Perhaps order yourself a gift to arrive in the distant future and totally forget about it until it arrives. Or maybe leave hidden notes in completely random places all over the house.
Get creative, because anything goes.
Even better still, begin crafting these little surprises for others too. A couple of times a month think of somebody close to you and figure out a way you can help them.
Maybe thatβs with a call or a surprise visit. Maybe thatβs a thoughtful gift or simply paying them a genuine compliment.
The world needs more pleasant surprises.
Company
The people you spend time with can either raise or squander your energy and positivity. If you want to be happier, be deliberate in choosing who you spend your time with.
Iβm not the most extroverted of people, so who Iβm spending time with can be the difference between me coming across as some crazy, passionate guy or a timid, bashful guy. The latter of which tends to leave me questioning myselfββWhatβs wrong with me?β βWhy am I so quiet?β
Very few of us are fortunate enough to be able to spend 24/7 around inspiring people who light us up, but we can craft opportunities to spend time with (or at very least call) somebody who inspires us a couple of times a week.
We often default to whatever company is available to us, just to avoid being alone. We donβt pay any attention to how negatively that company might affect us.
Be totally honest with yourself and ask: does spending time with these people make me come away feeling better or worse? If the answer is worse, then maybe itβs not worth it after all.
Time
Perhaps most importantly, we need to be very deliberate with how we spend our time. Itβs so easy to fall into a routine and stay there no matter how counter-productive or negative it may be.
I try to do something Iβm passionate about every single day. For you, this could be taking an action that contributes toward a big goal, or maybe itβs knitting, playing an instrument, or another activity you love to do.
You donβt have to spend long on it, but thereβs a lot of satisfaction that can be had knowing that no matter how manic and stressful life may be, you are still working toward something that is meaningful to you.
Make time to lose yourself in a book. Give yourself a sacred fifteen minutes every morning to savor and enjoy a steaming coffee.
Make time to meditate, to enjoy the moment and to feel gratitude for all that you have.
Dedicate a part of your day to going out into nature and noticing the sound of the birds, the crisp bite of the wind, or simply the gentle crunch of the leaves beneath your feet.
Your time is the most precious thing in your life. Without it, nothing else could exist.
Elimination
With that in mind, just adding more positivity to our days will always have limited success without eliminating the negative too.
I find it useful to eliminate the news from my lifeβI found that watching it caused me to see the world with so much more fear and negativity. Thatβs not to say I turn a blind eye to that which is happening in the world, but instead I choose to ignore the negative slander that the news puts on everything.
Look at your own day and try to figure out what you can take out. What needs pruning?
What routines or habits have you got that add nothing to your lifeβor worse, which ones actually have a negative effect?
Maybe you find the traffic always leaves you angry on the way to work, so search for a different route instead. The road through the countryside may take you longer, but if it inspires you more and leaves you more positive, then itβs time well spent.
Take the time to notice the other stressors in your life. Which of these can you remove completely? And if you canβt remove them, how can you reduce their impact?
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Life is short. We all have a limited time here, so itβs so important that weβre deliberate in how we use it. That means being intentional and designing our lives to leave us as happy and fulfilled as possible. Donβt leave that up that chance.
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About Tom Norman
Tom Norman runs The Art Of Being Thoroughly Used Up, a website that explores what it takes to make the most of our precious time here on the planet.
What a lovely article Tom. What stood out for me the most is the idea of being deliberate. In the spirit of being deliberate I’ve started a workout/meditation routine in the morning. I love the way it makes me feel and how it starts my day. Your article has made me start thinking about other ways I can be deliberate in my life. Thank you for that!
π Thanks so much for the comment Jennifer!
I think in the pursuit of deliberate living, a morning workout/meditation is the perfect place to start π And like you say, it’s incredible how something that simple can affect how you feel for the rest of the day.
I definitely recommend trying to schedule some little surprises too. I actually came across a website called “Future Me” that lets you send an email that will get delivered to your future self, so I’m definitely going to give that a go myself π
All the best!
I think I need to read this daily…GREAT stuff. Thanks for sharing, Tom!!
Thank you! This is so inspiring. I really needed this today. Being more deliberate with my time is something I struggle with on a daily basis. I waste so much of it mindlessly surfing the internet or playing computer games, when I should be focusing on my true passion: writing. I am going to live with more purpose and make sure that I spend at least 30 minutes writing everyday.
I also love the idea of leaving little surprises. That “Future Me” site is a fabulous idea. I just sent a letter to my future self. It was so much fun to write and it inspired me to make positive changes in my life.
Ahh thanks so much for the kind comment π I’m so glad you found it useful! That means a lot!
π I’m really glad it reached you at a time when you needed it! I think we’re all guilty to mindlessly surfing the internet or endlessly scrolling through cat videos…. I know I’m particularly guilty of that last one from time to time π
I wish you all the best with your writing. Just that daily commitment makes sure every single day has a meaning to it, and that you are taking deliberate action towards something YOU have identified as being important. That alone is incredible π
I’m so glad you like that Future Me site too. I hope the Future You gets a nice surprise when you receive that message out of the blue π
I loved this! Thank you so much! It is good to be reminded of these things. I have to get back to the habit of hanging signs on the walls that remind me of what I want to achieve. I agree…we sometimes do not realize how much negative people affect our lives, until we don’t have them around anymore, and all of the sudden, our days start lighten up more often. I am a firm believer of energy, and surrounding ourselves with positive people and avoiding naggers, can have such a huge impact in our lives. No doubt, life was meant to pursue happiness, not misery. And since nothing lasts forever, might as well make the best out of our days. Thanks again Tom! π
Wow, what a comment! Thanks so much π I couldn’t agree more. I’m a big believer in energy too, and how much of an impact those around us can have on it.
I love that last bit you said too “No doubt, life was meant to pursue happiness not misery. And since nothing lasts forever, we might as well make the best out of our days!” π Amen!
Thanks for commenting.
Hi Tom,
Thank you for writing and sharing this post. It’s very well-written, inspirational and full of useful advice that we can begin to apply immediately. I love that you provide practical ways to slowly change our lives, like tweaking the physical space around us and making conscious choices. A lot of the time, the desire to feel happier or become more inspired seems like a purely mental chore – ‘I need to have more positive thoughts or feel a certain way to change things.’ This can feel overwhelming and out of our control – we can’t always manage the thoughts we have. That’s why I really like your approach to it.
I like that you refer to it as ‘designing our lives.’ It puts control back into our hands and encourages us to actively shape our lives instead of trying to simply ‘think’ or ‘feel’ a certain way. Actively setting time aside for our interests, cutting away negativity, placing small, inspirational reminders around us, transforming our work space – these are all great ways to change our lives for the better, and best of all, we can begin to do them right now.
Thank you for these insights. You’re right that life is short and time is all we have – in today’s fast-paced world where everything is at our fingertips, managing our time and consciously choosing how we spend it is more important than ever.
Stacey
π thanks so much Stacey! I’m really glad you were able to take something away from it.
All the best in designing your own life π
Wow. That was an amazing read. And i found the article just at the right time. Thank you so much.
Good list Tom. I’d add one more item to the list. “Meaning” or Purpose. Really improves the quality of life if we are able to find out the primary reason of our existence.