āAll the flowers of all the tomorrows are in the seeds of today.ā ~Proverb
For as long as I can remember, Iāve wanted to contribute to the world somehow. Iāve always dreamed of starting a charity organization. I bet that, just like me, you walk around with some sort of wish in your heart to change the world in some way, but you might not do anything about it. How come?
My excuses were time, money, fears, and not knowing how to go about it. Iām guessing you have similar hindrances.
Until recently I held on to the limiting belief that someday, one perfect day, when Iām done being busy with pursuing my masters degree, working my current part-time job in a call center, and raising two small kids under five, Iāll follow my heart and contribute to this world. Someday.
Itās a myth!
Through my job in a call center, I witness lots of tragedies that happen to people, and theyāve been wakeup calls for me.
Iāve understood something life-changing: all I really have is today. And I better make it count.
So I made a conscious decision, a choice, to throw all my fears away and start spreading happiness.
I thought, I might not be able to start a charity now, but I can take a tiny step and start as a volunteer in some existing organization. So I joined hospital clown project, where I do the small, practical stuff for them.
I also decided to spread happiness around my inner circleāmy husband, my two kids, my family, friends, and colleagues, with small things.
I make their day brighter with pancakes, a hot cup of hot chocolate, or just by patiently listening.
Iām guessing youāre questioning this hippie approach. I am too, but give it a chance anyway!
I got inspiration from this story I read somewhere that I thought was powerful in its simplicity.
There was once a female traveler who always carried two bags with her, anywhere she went. In those bags she had flower seeds. Anytime she traveled or walked by a new place, she would throw these seeds around her. People wondered why she did it.
āItās a lifetime habit of mine,ā she explained. āIāll probably never come here again, but by spreading the flower seeds I leave something beautiful behind that people who come here can enjoy. It doesnāt matter that they donāt know me personally. All that matters is that by doing this, Iāll make someone happy.āĀ
What if we had this philosophy in life?
My grandmother also inspires me. Sheād lost both her parents when she was a child during the 40s in Russia, and she raised her siblings alone. She had plenty of reasons to just be bitter and sad. Yet, she was always happy and made others happy.
People loved to be around her. Just like the female traveler, she spread seeds of happiness around her.
Imagine if everyone would spread small seeds of happiness everywhere they went. Or maybe, everywhere is too broad. Letās just start with around us, at work, at school, with our kids, family, friends, and strangers on a street. Letās spread kindness and happiness around in our inner circle.
If youāre like me, quite busy with daily life, you might not know where to start. Consider following and see if there are anything you can apply in your everyday.
1. Be kind toward yourself. Ā
You know how on airplanes they advise that in case of a possible accident, parents should put on their oxygen masks before they help their kids? The same thing applies here.
Be kind toward yourself. Really. You canāt give what you donāt have, right? So go ahead and do the things you loveādance, sing, or paint all you want. Just enjoy. Then go and spread some happiness around you.
2. Smile.
This is the best method ever to make your own day and spread happiness around to others. Donāt wait to be happy; think of something good in your life, smile, and see what happens.
3. Surprise!
Surprise the people you love with flowers, small presents, kind words, help, a hug, or a genuine compliment.
4. Be a hero.
Notice and help someone around you, a perfect stranger.
Iāve just witnessed a hero in action. This homeless-looking guy came to a cafĆ© and wanted to buy coffee. All guests and servers looked at him like he didnāt belong there. As he counted his coins, he quickly realized that he was short of money.
Before I could say anything, this young guy walked up and paid what the man was missing. He sat down and enjoyed his coffee. Thatās an act of everyday Superman to me, no?
5. Say something good about someone or something.
Be genuine. This makes you feel good and itās much better than gossiping, since youāre spreading positive words and thoughts with the people around you. Win!
6. Make an effort to have good thoughts.
The thing with our thoughts is that they become words and then actions, so itās important we observe them and choose them wisely. Our thoughts are like flower seeds. They can either spread happiness or sadness. The choice is ours!
7. Listen with all your attention.
It sounds so easy, yet really few master it. Give your full attention to the person youāre talking with. It can change your whole view of the person and vice versa. That makes two happy people!
8. Learn a skill.
Then teach it for free. It could be anything from languages to cooking. Make it your one-person charity organization. Just donāt tell anyone. Have fun!
āHappiness is not a goalā¦itās a by-product of a life well lived.āĀ Eleanor Roosevelt
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About Kristi Kivi Frimpong
Kristi Kivi Frimpong is an inspirational writer. She writes about presence, authentic life, purpose, and passion on her blog mindfuldiary.com. She believes that we should live life according to our own personal values, dreams, intuition, and passions and not follow the crowd. Be more. Do less. Enjoy.