âThe little things? Theyâre not little.â ~Jon Kabat-Zinn
Remember Halloween, 2018? No? We wouldnât, either, except that it happens to be the day our mindfulness journeyâand our livesâchanged forever.
First, some background. We (Deborah and Willow) met when our boys played on the same fifth-grade soccer team. We connected quickly through our shared love of books, writing, dogs, hiking, and strong coffee.
Something else we had in common: We were both failed meditators. To be honest, we were a bit embarrassed that we couldnât make a mindfulness practice stick.
Thank Goodness We WERENâT Paying AttentionÂ
Now, back to the story. In 2018, October 31st landed on a Wednesday (an important detail, as youâll soon discover). That morning, we drove to San Francisco to see a new exhibit at an art gallery.
Parking spot secured, coffee in hand, we were first in line as we waited for the museum doors to open.
We waited. And waited. And then it dawned on us.
Was the museum closed on Wednesdays? Yep.
Had we paid attention to the schedule beforehand? Nope.
As usual, weâd been too distracted and busyâand now our plans were ruined.
Before heading home, we decided to walk around and explore downtown San Francisco. As we set off, we decided to try an experiment: We would slow down and tune in to, well, anything and everything.
Weâd notice what was happening around us. Weâd notice what was happening inside us. And weâd notice what happened when we intentionally paid attention.
Oh, the things we noticed! Little pink flowers poking out through a crack in the sidewalk. A tiny dog in a pale blue sequined jacket. A sweet older couple holding hands as they shuffled across the street together, which instantly warmed our hearts.
Two hours later, we realized that intentional noticing was making us feel present and grounded. Nourished and aware. We were totally engaged with our livesâand we loved it.
A Three-Word Invitation to Slow Down and Be Present
We decidedâon the spotâto each start a daily journal based on the prompt âToday I noticed.â Weâd write a sentence and draw something (anything!) about an observation. Nothing would be too small or mundane to be worth noticing.
A few weeks later, we shared what weâd been recording. As we paged through our journals, we found ourselves saying things like, âI noticed that!â and âI feel the same way!â As we laughed and talked, we realized how much of everyday life weâd been missing out on because we were too distracted to notice.
Here are just a few precious moments we might have missed if it wasnât for our âToday I Noticedâ mindfulness practice:
Today I noticed that just two stalks of freesias make the whole room smell divine.
Today I noticed how easy it is to practice âlovingkindnessâ on my dog.
Today I noticed how happy it makes me to hear my husband unloading the dishes. Â
Today I noticed I love coffee so much that I imagine my second cup while still drinking my first cup.
Our day-to-day lives were becoming richer and brighter simply because we were paying more attention.
2000+ Days of Mindfulnessâand Still CountingÂ
Now, five-and-a-half years later, weâre still observing, writing, and drawing about some of the funny, surprising, sweet, and ordinary moments that we all see but rarely take the time to notice. This daily practice leaves us feeling tuned in, present, and connectedâjust like any other mindfulness practice.
Unlike meditation, for us, this approach to mindfulness has stuck. Noticing and recording has become a way of lifeâand we donât plan on ever stopping.
Here are five reasons why weâre convinced that âToday I noticedâ is the secret to lasting mindfulness.
1. Itâs 100% natural.
Weâre all noticing things, all the time. The key is noticing yourself noticing. Paying attention doesnât require a meditation pillow, a yoga mat, or a mantra. It just takes a simple promptâ”Today I noticedââto shift your mindset.
2. It makes us feel present.
As Jon Kabat-Zinn so wisely stated in the quote above, the little moments arenât little because theyâre what make up our lives. When we move too fast or feel too overwhelmed to notice them, we miss out on an essential part of daily life. Intentional noticing is a way to instantly feel grounded in the here and now.
3. It sparks gratitude.
When we slow down and pay attention, even for an instant, we stop taking things for granted. Today I Noticed reminds us how easy it is to find things to appreciate if we just slow down and look for them.
4. It boosts compassion.
As we discovered during our very first session of showing each other our observations, the little moments are evidence of our shared humanity. Whether weâre seeing a new bud blossom into a beautiful flower, hearing a beloved dog snoring, or appreciating a smile from a stranger, such âordinaryâ experiences feel downright extraordinary when we realize theyâre part of a bigger collective experience.
5. Itâs a creative outlet.
If youâd like to have a creative practice but canât find the time, âToday I Noticedâ mindfulness is for you. You can spend as much or as little time as youâd like writing and drawing about an observation. This bite-sized break is an easy way to tap into a delicious right-brain experience and feel both completely focused and completely relaxed. And wonderfully creative!
Here are some tips and ideas to keep in mind.
6 Tips to Start a Noticing Practice TodayÂ
1. Start paying attention to little thingsâthoughts, feelings, observationsâas you go through your day. Nothing is too âsmallâ to notice and appreciate.
2. On a piece of paper, starting with the words âToday I noticed,â write about your observation with a sentence or two.
3. Create a sketch or some kind of visual to accompany or illustrate what you wrote. Remember, everyone is an artist in their own unique way.
4. Find a buddy to share your observations with. Start a âToday I Noticedâ club and host monthly sharing sessions. Or hold a weekly noticing session with your team at work.
5. Instead of asking your kids, âHow was school today?â (âBORING.â), ask them what theyâve noticed. Itâs a guaranteed conversation starter!
6. As you notice more and more things (and you will, we promise), keep track of your observations in your phone or a notebook. Then, when youâre ready for a creative break, you can dive right in and start writing and drawing.
Go Forth and Notice!
Have we convinced you to try noticing your way to mindfulness? We hope so!
When you simply let three words, âToday I noticed,â inspire you to pay attention to the little things that usually slip away unnoticed, you feel present, grounded, and nourished. Small things become more interesting and memorable when we simply take the time to notice them.
Weâll end with what may be the most powerful discovery of all: The more you notice, the more you notice. And that, friends, is where the real mindfulness magic happens.
About Willow Older and Deborah Huber
Willow Older and Deborah Huber are the founders of the Today I Noticed mindfulness practice and authors of Today I Noticed: A Little Book of Mindfulness that Will Change the Way You See the World (Blue Star Press, 2023). They also run Today I Noticed workshops for conferences, retreats, and corporations. They post their observations on Instagram: @today.i.noticed.