I go by the grades myself. Honestly, school is exhausting for them when they get home all they want to do is play or veg out.

I told my kids, “If you get C’s you’re seeing a tutor. If you get D’s you’re working with ME.” And trust me, no one wants to work with Mom!!

So what happened? One kid worked industriously and got A’s. The second kid was lazy as all get out and still got A’s (So I left the naturally brilliant one alone). The third kid has had problems that have nothing to do with intelligence or laziness. He has dyslexia and has always had to work harder/smarter/longer. Only now are we easing up on the tutor and he can now “Do it himself”.

Let school be school and home be home.

In the meantime, get a tutor. They will work harder for a stranger and if they know they won’t have one once they pull in at least B’s, you’ll see the B’s!

Good Luck!

Inky