Hello,

I guess I’ve exhausted this topic. I seem to have so much trouble understanding that sometimes people just fall out of love. After spending basically every second of the day together, my ex and I got tired of each other. He began to ignore me and I pulled him closer afraid he would let go. Obviously this does not work. We broke up and I struggled to figure out ways to bring him back in my life I did no contact, texting friendly things, trying to keep in touch, etc..etc. I don’t know, after a while I became a control freak wanting him to respond to my messages and feeling hurt if he didn’t. I still have a lot of feelings for him, but I’m afraid he doesn’t feel the same. I feel crushed. We finally spoke again after a month of not speaking and talked about why we broke up. I ended the conversation saying I would try not to contact him again.

I have thought of this as a learning experience. I have learned so much about myself through this relationship, which i’m grateful for. I just wish it didn’t come at such a high price. It has been about 3 months since we officially split and i’m crying having to walk away again. Not sure what to do anymore…. I understand that we can’t make someone love us and I don’t want to be in a one sided relationship. I was already hurt when he started distancing himself during the relationship. What can I do to move on? I will also be running into him for work soon.