Dear lostme20x:
I read your post and i do hope you do not marry this guy and that you will soon enough terminate your relationship with him. It is not only bad for you to suffer his raging episodes- it will be a terrible, terrible thing to bring a child into the world and expose an innocent baby and young boy or girl to his raging episodes. Can you imagine what his rage would do to a young child? If it affects you, an adult, as badly as it does, what will it do to a child?

The fact that he will be nice to the child in between the raging episodes, that he will be good to the child (as he has been to you) while the child is sick is going to NOTHING AT ALL to lessen the great damage that he will inflict on the child when raging. THe child will be afraid in between the episodes, fearing the NEXT time.

Please, please do not bring a child into the world with this guy- if you intend to be good to your own child and you know the man you intend to be father to the child is going to damage your child, then you are as responsible as the father for the abuse.

anita

Hi lostme20x,

This guy isn’t The One and you know it. What has happened is that his raging bad temper has become a habit. There are two ways to begin to make it better ~ I don’t recommend either one ~ I actually want you to leave. One is to physically leave the room when he starts. The other, unfortunately, is to rage back three times harder ~ make a scene, scare him. I DON’T recommend doing that. My own son had this bad habit and I terrorized him three times back, I’m afraid, to break this. But guess what? He has NEVER had a “scene” again. He literally got “Scared Straight”. I did his future girl friends and wife a favor. You NEVER, EVER rage against a woman, EVER! But my dear, you are NOT the one to teach him. He is too dangerous. One day he will get his literal azz kicked out in the real world, but YOU should be long gone!

I don’t care if you go out with this other guy, just PLEASE give your boyfriend a well deserved Life Lesson by DUMPING HIM! Then it will be a VERY long time before he tries this with another woman! And then he’ll be dumped again. Most women won’t put up with it.

Best,

Inky