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  • May 3, 2015 at 12:10 am #76064
    Leanne
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    Hi everyone

    I have been trying to do meditation about 40mins a day every day for the past little bit and it has been helping me let go of some issues from my past, things to do with relationships and so on. However recently I have had an issue pop up where I don’t know how to let go of this particular issue, that issue is that I think I am boring and people(friends etc.) leave me because of it and find someone more fun. In the past I have had people leave me because of this(more than one so its tough), people I liked and I thought I was friends with, I would watch them slowly drift away to someone better than me no matter how much I tried and wanted them back. I have been experiencing bouts of depression and anger during my meditation practices with memories popping up about these particular instances. I have been successful with letting go of specific events that weren’t necessarily my fault, just feeling the sensations, emotions and thoughts and letting them pass, this case though, I specifically think I am boring person and because of that people leave me. I get jealous and upset when my boyfriend has a lot of fun without me(even if he doesn’t I for some reason think he does), it makes me feel crazy being that way because I know the irrationality behind it and I also know what past events these emotions are tied to, I just don’t know how to let go in this particular instance. I am trying to just watch and let it pass but it does not seem as if it is passing as the thought keeps popping up 😛 I need some help please, I am not sure on how to let this go

    Thank you very much for taking the time to read this, sorry if there are any grammar mistakes.

    May 3, 2015 at 5:13 am #76066
    Inky
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    Hi Leanne,

    That’s actually great that issues crop up during meditation ~ it means they are waiting to be cleared!

    Well, your post isn’t boring because I only answer one a day, so you’re a good writer, so there’s me. And, your boyfriend chose you out of maybe a hundred or at least a dozen single girls he knew, so you’re not boring to him.

    And people drifting away has more to do with personality compatibility. Like, I’m not boring. I am quiet. And I am an introvert. So I attract people who are extroverts, over the top, or those who want to be around a grounded, stable influence.

    And if you’re young, yeah, a lot of kids/”kids” want to be “where the party is”. But that only shows their own insecurities about feeling left out ~ there’s a lot of free-floating anxiety in the old friend group, I think. So you’ll now attract more mature, normal, secure people. Better, right?

    Best,

    Inky

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