Dear cperrone

Are you protecting someone behaving like that when you help him avoid the consquences of his behavior?
If you really want to help him, you should procceed with the restraining order. That way he will learn a lot about what happens when you systematically abuse a person, what means enforcement of law-the irony of it being that he wishes to represent law enforcement.
I think that even if he loses his opportunity to join the police this is not your fault, you are not destroying his life, you are saving yours! He destroyed his life by himself with his actions! You may actually be giving this man a second chance to learn from his terrible mistakes and make him self a better man.

You are only responsible for your life and your actions. Not for the actions of others.

Take care, have Hope
George

• This reply was modified 10 years, 1 month ago by George.

Dear cperrone,
he is responsible for his own actions, and you are responsible for your own wellbeing!
Apart from that you might even consider yourself having a moral obligation: If you protect him you are giving him a free pass to do all he did to you to others as well! Do you really think there should be a cop on the street who threatens, abuses and hurts people? What do you think will happen if he gets into a secure position within the police force? He would have even more power over other people then!

By protecting yourself you are also protecting lots of other people!

Still, this is not to be taken lightly, and it’s very understandable that you are scared, because this guy is scary! So take good care of yourself, be careful, and try to get as many people whom you trust to help and support you as possible!