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  • March 3, 2015 at 3:19 am #73458
    Will
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    Does your family know you had to throw around your entire flight schedule to be at a baby birthday party?

    Does your family appreciate the fact that you actually went and did that? Because it strikes me you really didn’t have to. With one week’s notice, you could have said, “Aw, I wish I’d known! I’m going to be in Europe. Let me know earlier next time and I’ll definitely be there.”

    Maybe (that’s a real maybe) part of your being stressed stems from an idea you have about how you must be at get togethers, and you must overcome all the hurdles, and you must put in the effort because who else is going to and you are this backbone figure. I mean, it could be that’s really the case and your family would fall apart if you relaxed even a little, but I invite you to consider the possibilities.

    Damn, that sounded sarcastic. I don’t mean to be sarcastic. Some families do revolve around a backbone figure, and I don’t know if that’s yours. It could also be that it’s just really important to you to be at that party, in which case all you need to do is talk to your family about giving notice for big get togethers. Because you almost didn’t make it.

    Good luck.

    March 3, 2015 at 4:07 am #73460
    Inky
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    Hi ElleTinker700,

    I am a bad mom for saying this, but… once you have kids, doing stuff like birthday parties is automatic and no big deal. There’s also the kids’ plays, sports games, recitals, and graduations. Frankly, your brother (being a guy) won’t care and will totally understand that work schedules trump birthday parties, plays, games, recitals and even graduations. And your sister in law will probably be relieved that there’s one less person to take care of. That’s how I feel, anyway, when my own sister catches wind about a recital and invites The World. LOL. I end up taking care of several grandparents and the token lost or late relative and almost miss my own kid perform!!

    Also, you seem to be putting a lot of self importance on yourself. That if you’re not there everyone will be emotionally devastated. Conversely, they think your job is cute and no big deal and really don’t get it.

    It’ll All Be OK,

    Inky

    • This reply was modified 10 years, 1 month ago by Inky.
    March 5, 2015 at 8:55 am #73578
    Anonymous
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    You are really emotionally exhausted! You should rest!

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