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  • September 13, 2014 at 5:48 am #64825
    Inky
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    I’m Western, so on a level I don’t “get” arranged marriages. But, some of my East European ancestors were in some.

    An alliance, or the families meeting, IS NOT A MARRIAGE. No vows have been broken. No Karma initiated. The families meet to make sure all is well. Life is still open ended.

    My Great Grandmother, like yourself, broke off an engagement. She was 17 and saw that he was acting “just like a typical Romanian man”, so dropped him. If she stayed with him, I would be a different person (or not exist!) and wouldn’t be writing to you LOL! So I’m glad she married my “foreigner” Galatian great grandfather!

    So my advice to you is to marry the next likely girl your parents show you!

    September 13, 2014 at 9:20 pm #64860
    pr009
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    Thanks Inky

    You are true that I did not break a vow. But I changed a decision in span of 6 months which caused inconvenience to a person, family and hurt them. Further due to my insecurities I could not proceed ahead even though I liked her. Now when she is gone I feel that she was the one or she was perfect in every way. I feel that I can not find any other girl who I will like so much.

    September 14, 2014 at 8:37 am #64875
    elephantgirl
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    Hey rpatel, I am sorry that you are through this feelings. I just can say that you had the opportunity to know yourself during this engagements. This things could be after you married and then this would be more difficult to handle. Now you know your insecure parts. I am sure you will meet another girl which you can like and this time you will behave more experienced. And about this girl, may be since you feel guilty you focused to much on her and that s why you are thinking she is the one for you. But she is not the one for you, otherwise it will work. So do not give up we will all find the ones we are looking for;)

    September 15, 2014 at 5:06 am #64898
    pr009
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    Thanks elephantgirl for the word of encouragement. Yes, it may be true that I am focusing too much on her. In fact it is true. I am dwelling too much, i think I should have done that differently other wise this situation would not have come. In every situation I am relating to her. Is it true that she wasnt meant for me, otherwise it would have worked?

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