Thanks Cameron for your post. I was meditating on a similar idea today for someone else. I would like to share my insight if you do not mind 🙂

I hope that Al @simpleal will share his insight as well as he has offered very useful solutions to Dee in an another post. Matt @amatt , need your help here again, pls.

First of all Cameron, congrats for entering the third decade of your existence on this planet and commencing your spiritual journey. You are an extremely insightful soul but I feel that you may not be aware of this. You actually know whats causing your suffering: attachment to a want. A need for a family, kid and husband is causing you grief rather than happiness as you are unable to fulfil this at present moment.

Look, I do not have a crystal ball to say when you will have your own future family but I do know you will. As soon as you let go of the want, it should happen. Every want, which is hard to fulfil comes with an underlying lesson. In your case, I think you need to prove to yourself that your happiness is not dependent on getting a husband, kid or having a family. You are complete and whole on your own. When you let go of this attachment, you will become a much more fulfilled being.

How do you let go ? Have faith that all is happening for your highest good and will continue to do so. Trust your higher self to provide the right environment for your want to be fulfilled in the future. Continue with the meditation as it will help with letting go and aid you in becoming detached to this want. Meditation will also prepare you for the journey that you are going to undertake in the near future :). How awesome !!

I will share an example of a personal friend who was so desperate to have a husband, family and kids that she went through all odds to find a partner. As soon as she gave birth to her son in the 2nd year of marriage, husband fell sick with a simple pneumonia. Unfortunately, for unknown reasons, he became more unwell and died in an ICU a month later from various complications. She was devastated. Took her a few years to get over this but her want for a husband didn’t end. She got married the second time and unfortunately, got divorced in less than a 6 months due to some personal reasons. After 9 years of suffering, I think she must have had enough so she took up meditation to find her answers. Now after a year of practicing, she is content and living happily with her son (who unfortunately is mentally handicap). According to her, She has finally found her solace. Could she have avoided so much hardships and suffering ? I don’t know as I am not God as yet 😉 but, it seems the life lessons were staring her into the eyes for a long time even before she started her journey of suffering. I can share many such stories with you as I get to hear them first hand.

The moral of the story is to: enjoy what you have, offer gratitude for everything and if something is not happening as you want despite trying, let it be. Learn the lesson, which this experience is teaching you and flow freely with life. Do not be hard on yourself. When the time is right, things will happen and provide you with the happiness that you deserve. In the meantime, continue your attitude of gratitude and meditation. If you can do some selfless service such as feeding the needy or children that will be an icing on the cake.

Loads of positive energy coming your way and thanks for your update on higher self. Much appreciated.

Jasmine.

Hi Cameron

I am so sorry for causing you to cry. I didn’t mean for that to occur. Pls cheer up, pretty pls. This is the reason I wanted Al or Matt to help out as they are so warm in their approach compared to myself. I am still work in progress :).

You WILL have all that you want in life but wouldn’t you like to enjoy the experience that is in front of you in the present moment ? When we attach to a want, we stop living in the present as we are either living in the past or the future. Time has no meaning when it comes to mental peace or contentment.

For the moment, pls enjoy everything that is in front of you. Love yourself, look after every need of yours, sleep well, hang out with all sorts of people, meditate, listen to some spiritual teachers, go to comedy shows, explore the nature, travel, eat, cook for the needy, talk to some happy elderly folks etc. Do whatever it takes to fully embrace your life.

I know that you will be fine. Your higher self is just getting you ready for what lies ahead in the future and your higher self wants to ensure that you are able to maintain your happiness regardless of circumstances or situations. Wont you like that for yourself ? Life is NOT meant to be bed of thorns or unfulfilled wishes. It is meant to flow like the water in a downstream river. The water doesn’t stop at every rock in the stream does it ? It just goes around the rock and continues to flow. Thats what we need to learn to become. When the water becomes stagnant, it becomes dirty or leads to a breeding ground for not so good things. By attaching to a want, we also become stagnant and forget to flow with life. Does this analogy work for you ?

Now, pls put a big smile on your beautiful face and give yourself a big hug. You are so worth it all 🙂 Sometimes, by not getting what we want, our higher self is protecting us from danger that we cant see due to our short sight. So let things be. Every new day is going to bring more light into your life so continue your meditation practice.

Lots of love and hugs,

J

Awesome :))))))))

Hey, according to my experience and what I have been taught by my teachers – yes, it is normal to get emotional during meditations in the early phase. Meditation is like a inner being cleanser so a lot of negativity, unresolved emotions or issues get cleared first. As you continue to practice, it doesn’t happen as often and you get filled with more light and peace. The trick is – you cannot have breaks. It is a daily practice as each session builds on the previous one.

Meditation is not a chore but a lifestyle, which helps bring about more positivity and inner peace to our inner being. Doing breathing exercises prior to starting meditation help heaps to clear the mental chatter as well. You can also try the tibetan singing bowl sounds meditation as well for a short practice. I have posted them on my other posts. Attached link for heart chakra meditation, which is extremely useful for letting be over time. The frequency used in here matches the frequency of our heart chakra so it is working at very subtle levels.

Keep in touch and looking forward to your inspiring posts to others.

Jasmine

Hey Tom @tom2. Thanks for your insight. I agree that when we fixate on something too much, we forget about other important things in life. In my own experience, every time, I have fixated on something for hours or days, I have not achieved the thing that I was fixating on. The moment I let go, it all becomes easy and light again. For example, same thing often happens when we are desperately waiting for that impt call from someone and can’t take our eyes off the phone but that call doesn’t come. The moment we start doing something else or get busy with other things, the phone rings 😉 . Can you relate to something similar ?

Letting go is not easy I agree. Every time, we are hurt or fall down in life, we need to be kind to ourself and do the necessary grieving that is required. But at the end of the day, letting go of unhelpful emotions or issues is in our hands. It is a conscious choice that everyone of us can make for our own greater good. We can choose to grieve for one day, for 2 weeks or for 10 years. No one is really affected by how long we continue our quest of not letting go except for ourselves.

When our hearts are filled with love, forgiveness and acceptance for self, letting go becomes a preferred choice over sadness, guilt, resentment, anger, disbelief, fear etc. We can only love, forgive or accept others when we can truly do the same to our own self – this is a very difficult concept for some to understand but if you sit on it for a few days, it will make sense. When you are alone, try and occupy your mind with positive thoughts or ideas. There are various ways of doing that – exercise, watch interesting documentaries, listen to positive or inspirational talks (thanks to you tube, we have so much of these things nowadays), sing, dance, listen to music, ring up old mates, clean the house, make a nice dish for yourself, read a book, walk in the nature, look after someone’s dog or kids etc. Taking your thoughts in a positive rather than negative direction will only do you do good in both the short or long run.

Prayer is quite similar to meditation. Anything, which is done with a pure intent or love is going to bring more light to our hearts.

Best wishes and may you, Cameron, Gavin, Network7, Angela D find what you are all seeking.

Jasmine

Hey Al. Thanks for putting a huge smile on my face :))))))))))). This is the beauty of being a human – we all complement each other so well and can learn so much from each others experiences.

My husband was suggesting the same yesterday re: use of match making sites for finding suitable partners when other avenues fail.

Perhaps, Lori at @tinybuddha can look into developing a matchmaking site for TB members as they are so many like minded people on this site and some could go on to find their soul mates here and become wonderful life partners 🙂 just a thought.

Have a wonderful weekend and enjoy ur summer with your loved ones. We are heading into winter and I will get to have more doona time as a result 🙂

J