“To be present is to see the other person as they are: their habits, their evasions, their peculiarities, the parts we don’t fully understand. And to meet that without the immediate reflex to fix, improve, or measure them against who they should become.”-

It just occurred to me that it’d be a good idea to have the above said as part of wedding ceremonies.

And if implemented in marriages, how much love-missed misery could prevent.

* Notice: “love-missed misery”- that’s my word-dance 🙂

“But perhaps the practice shifts here. Not toward perfect, unconditional love, but toward a willingness to notice when we’ve left presence and to return.”-

To return to the promised land.

“Presence is not passive. It is attentive, responsive, quietly engaged”-

You’ve been practicing this kind of presence for a long time here in the forums. I remember you were accused of being passive months ago, in one of the threads. You responded with a uniquely engaged-kind of grace- not defensiveness, not offensiveness.

If only world politics was run in this spirit of grace.

“Is this a reality we can stand within?”- to stand within (to not shake it, fight it, turmoil-it).

To stand within it. To B and let B.

To not exert power-over, or to submit to power-over. To void the human power quest- in relationships, personal and global- bombs, nuclear, violence.

But I digress or not. Not.

Ani-natta-nita