Dear CKS:

I understand your frustration and the need to address this situation. Here are a few suggestions for responding in a way that is assertive, yet respectful:

Hi CC,

I hope you’re doing well. I wanted to talk about something that happened on the bus today. When you and your friends were repeatedly saying my full name, it felt a bit uncomfortable for me. I’m sure you didn’t mean any harm, but I’d appreciate it if we could avoid that in the future.

Thanks for understanding.

Best regards, [Your Name]

Keeping the message calm and respectful helps prevent escalation and opens the door for a constructive dialogue. Clearly stating how the behavior made you feel and asking for it to stop is important.  Acknowledging that the behavior might not have been intended to harm can help de-escalate any potential defensiveness.

* If the behavior continues despite your request, or if it escalates, consider reporting it to a trusted adult or school authority for further support.

Sending a respectful and clear message can often resolve issues like this. However, if the behavior continues despite your request, or if it escalates, consider reporting it to a trusted adult or school authority for further support.

Feel free to adjust the message as you see fit, and remember, you have every right to feel safe and respected at school. 😊

anita

Hello CKS,

Do you know the girl very well? Are you sure she would react positively? Or is she a type of person who would use this email against you in the future?

I understand your need to do something. However, sometimes it is better to take some time, relax and come up with solutions later. Think twice if it is a good idea to reach that girl this way, especially if she is a bully.